SOBRIETY

[NoComply180]

Been in a rut the last few weeks homies. 7 months in. Just don’t really enjoy anything right now. Dunno if I need to adjust/increase my meds for the ol noggin, give it some time, or what. Still not drinking though, so that’s a win.

[Ankle_Lift]

Been in a rut the last few weeks homies. 7 months in. Just don’t really enjoy anything right now. Dunno if I need to adjust/increase my meds for the ol noggin, give it some time, or what. Still not drinking though, so that’s a win.

I'm same as you, 7 months in, no booze.

I am in no way trying to diagnose you, and am only speaking from my own experiences...
 It sounds like some depressive episode going on. Shit sucks a lot of the time, and sometimes you just need to curl up in a ball for awhile  and power through it.

Everyone will always suggest things to help. "Oh try this, do this, etc...", but you didn't ask, so I'm not going to... But just hang in there man. Don't fall back into he booze, you've gone this far just keep going.

This will pass, and without the lows, you can't have the highs.
You'll able to see clearly once the rain is gone.

[mfweeno]

My wife is dealing with some potentially scary health shit and it’s put me back in a mindset where I’m really craving a relapse again. Just needed to speak truth to that right now. I know it’s a gift to be present to offer support and love but I’m just feeling overwhelmed and wanting to hit the eject button.

Update: Called an old buddy from the rooms and spoke from the heart about how I was feeling. He lent a kind ear and encouraged me to get back to an in-person meeting tomorrow. That’s the plan at this time. Wishing hope and peace to everyone out there right now.

[Sleazy]

My wife is dealing with some potentially scary health shit and it’s put me back in a mindset where I’m really craving a relapse again. Just needed to speak truth to that right now. I know it’s a gift to be present to offer support and love but I’m just feeling overwhelmed and wanting to hit the eject button.

Wishing you and your wife the best outcomes on health. No advice to give as I’ve never had to deal with it and can’t imagine how hard it is. My business partner is going through it now with his wife and it’s been so hard for him.

[Easy Slider]

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My wife is dealing with some potentially scary health shit and it’s put me back in a mindset where I’m really craving a relapse again. Just needed to speak truth to that right now. I know it’s a gift to be present to offer support and love but I’m just feeling overwhelmed and wanting to hit the eject button.

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Wishing you and your wife the best outcomes on health. No advice to give as I’ve never had to deal with it and can’t imagine how hard it is. My business partner is going through it now with his wife and it’s been so hard for him.

I have been through some similar shit, my wife was in a coma for three weeks with long recovery in 2020 and I was relatively fresh on the wagon. All I can say is I am glad I was sober because this stuff is hard enough to process for your mind and body without additionally intoxicating/weakening it. Also, your wife needs you with a clear head now taking the right decisions, doing the right stuff, saying intelligent and loving things not rambling half drunk.

What I did instead, while she was in the hospital was visiting her as much as I could and otherwise took long walks listening to podcasts. This, and praying, which I will also do for you and your wife.

[mfweeno]

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My wife is dealing with some potentially scary health shit and it’s put me back in a mindset where I’m really craving a relapse again. Just needed to speak truth to that right now. I know it’s a gift to be present to offer support and love but I’m just feeling overwhelmed and wanting to hit the eject button.

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Wishing you and your wife the best outcomes on health. No advice to give as I’ve never had to deal with it and can’t imagine how hard it is. My business partner is going through it now with his wife and it’s been so hard for him.

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I have been through some similar shit, my wife was in a coma for three weeks with long recovery in 2020 and I was relatively fresh on the wagon. All I can say is I am glad I was sober because this stuff is hard enough to process for your mind and body without additionally intoxicating/weakening it. Also, your wife needs you with a clear head now taking the right decisions, doing the right stuff, saying intelligent and loving things not rambling half drunk.

What I did instead, while she was in the hospital was visiting her as much as I could and otherwise took long walks listening to podcasts. This, and praying, which I will also do for you and your wife.

Thank you both @Easy Slider and @Sleazy for your responses and kind words. I appreciate you sharing your experience and your prayers @Easy Slider. It really helps to hear that others have been in the same shoes.

[JoseCansnake0]

3 years sober today. Best decision I've ever made and my life has been so much better for it. Always here to answer any questions via PM

Stay strong and focused pals

[Sleazy]

3 years sober today. Best decision I've ever made and my life has been so much better for it. Always here to answer any questions via PM

Stay strong and focused pals

congratulations!

[Sleazy]

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3 years sober today. Best decision I've ever made and my life has been so much better for it. Always here to answer any questions via PM

Stay strong and focused pals

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Word, holmes. Very radical

i'm a few years behind you but firmly enjoying it. i'm chilling at a waterpark with my kids and just enjoying ice cold water and multitaksing catching up on work with bombing slides and then going to go home, play some board games and video games with kids, go out to eat, etc. and then wake up feeling great. last year i would have been pouding beers, ate some nasty food then went home and passed out for a few hours.

[Burt Ward]

3 years sober today. Best decision I've ever made and my life has been so much better for it. Always here to answer any questions via PM

Stay strong and focused pals

Well done, and congratulations!

[JoseCansnake0]

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3 years sober today. Best decision I've ever made and my life has been so much better for it. Always here to answer any questions via PM

Stay strong and focused pals

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Word, holmes. Very radical

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i'm a few years behind you but firmly enjoying it. i'm chilling at a waterpark with my kids and just enjoying ice cold water and multitaksing catching up on work with bombing slides and then going to go home, play some board games and video games with kids, go out to eat, etc. and then wake up feeling great. last year i would have been pouding beers, ate some nasty food then went home and passed out for a few hours.

We are one in the same my guy, family life is a good life.

I'd have been the guy who drank 2 beers too many almost everynight

[fakie nollie]

any you cats fuck with electrolyte packets added to your ice water? we all used to drink shit that made us extra dehydrated, but now i like to add some electrolytes to my agua on extra hot days.

stay cool

Idk what this has to do with sobriety but I started doing this about 3 weeks ago. Had a horrible case of Covid and was sweating bullets, so added liquid IV to my morning mix. I don’t really notice a difference, other than I piss less

[Monolithic Flick]

80 days no alcohol today.  definitely a record in my adult life.  that's all I got. 

[GnarAlarm]

80 days no alcohol today.  definitely a record in my adult life.  that's all I got.

Fuck yeah, that's practically the entire summer, for me summer is the hardest time of year to avoid drinking.

[Coastal Fever]

Congrats, MF!

[pugmaster]

any you cats fuck with electrolyte packets added to your ice water? we all used to drink shit that made us extra dehydrated, but now i like to add some electrolytes to my agua on extra hot days.

stay cool

I've tried many flavors of Liquid IV. I have to add way more water because if I follow their directions, it is way too sweet and salty.

The Guava, Pina Colada, grape, and pear are my favorites. The cotton candy, rainbow sherbert, and firecracker ones are worth it.

I want to try passion fruit, acai, mango tamarind, and seaberry. They are expensive as hell, though. It is probably way cheaper to do Himalayan sea salt and calorie-free Kool-Aid packets or crystal light.

[JANUS]

Anybody get/stay sober with a significant other who drinks?

Also, congrats MF, that’s a big move.

[Coastal Fever]

My partner does, but not regularly or in great volume.  There’s definitely been times where she probably wished I’d loosen up and have a couple, but that’s because I tend to check out in social situations, which I also did while drinking.  It works because we’re middle aged homebodies, but I’m not sure it would’ve worked in our younger party years.

[Scarecrow Radio]

I'm California sober since 2019

[Monolithic Flick]

Thanks all for the congrats.  The support in this thread is meaningful. And in turn let me congratulate you, Scarecrow Radio.  That's quite the streak.

[mfweeno]

80 days no alcohol today.  definitely a record in my adult life.  that's all I got.

Big congrats dude! Those first 6 months felt like a dogfight for me at times - don’t discount these milestones because they are huge.

I mentioned in a couple of other threads I bought an Element flatbar recently. While it seems off topic, I bring this up in the context of this thread because the only other time I owned one of these was in the midst of my deeper drinking days. 
I remember driving in an ice storm while pretty buzzed one weekend to pick the thing up an hour or so away from where I lived at the time. Just to be clear, I have terrible guilt and nightmares about doing things like this still to this day.
I was absolute fucking trash when skating it too. I basically just spammed backside boardslides and the occasional Hail Mary front 5050 because I was too off kilter from what turned into constant steady day drinking.
Fast forward to now - I have learned back and front 5050s and 5-0s in the span of about a week and am feeling comfortable enough to add them into some little flatground lines. It’s nice being able to change my relationship with things like skating in sobriety. Kind of feels like I’m making wrong things right again at some level.

Just felt like sharing that tonight - sending hope and strength out for those who need it.

[Monolithic Flick]

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80 days no alcohol today.  definitely a record in my adult life.  that's all I got.

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Big congrats dude! Those first 6 months felt like a dogfight for me at times - don’t discount these milestones because they are huge.

I mentioned in a couple of other threads I bought an Element flatbar recently. While it seems off topic, I bring this up in the context of this thread because the only other time I owned one of these was in the midst of my deeper drinking days. 
I remember driving in an ice storm while pretty buzzed one weekend to pick the thing up an hour or so away from where I lived at the time. Just to be clear, I have terrible guilt and nightmares about doing things like this still to this day.
I was absolute fucking trash when skating it too. I basically just spammed backside boardslides and the occasional Hail Mary front 5050 because I was too off kilter from what turned into constant steady day drinking.
Fast forward to now - I have learned back and front 5050s and 5-0s in the span of about a week and am feeling comfortable enough to add them into some little flatground lines. It’s nice being able to change my relationship with things like skating in sobriety. Kind of feels like I’m making wrong things right again at some level.

Just felt like sharing that tonight - sending hope and strength out for those who need it.

Missed this post.  Thanks dude, and awesome story. Congrats on all the new tricks.   I’m also 36 days no cannabis either at this point.  For the 90 day mark yesterday I celebrated by buying some new wheels.  Those spitfire 97a Delfinos.  I’m not a good skater (started old) but don’t care because even bad skating is more fun than anything else for me.  And it has definitely kept me sober and is a reason to stay that way.  At some marker I'm going to grab that element flatbar too.  hoping some day count coincides with skate warehouse throwing it on sale again.

[HeavyAndExpensive]

I’m typing this because I’ve been venting to my friends today. I’m almost 6 months booze free and after think about it, it’s kind of great. I like a lot about it, but honestly I just want to fucking drink. Not in a crave sense, I don’t really have cravings, or at least anything that comes close isn’t very intense.  I dunno I’m not in front of a PC so I can’t type now, but I almost feel ripped off. I know how childish that sounds. I don’t even have an urge to drink per se, it’s hard to describe. I’m here and I’m playing along but I don’t really want to be.

[Monolithic Flick]

I kind of get that man, although I’m way behind you at my 100 days.  I kind of hoped a bunch of miracles would happen and I would feel like a zen master super wise happy man.  Seems that takes work.

And in my head I had said “ok make it to 100 and then you can drink like normal.” But it’s funny you mention feeling ripped off.  Because if I’m honest I realize drinking beer left me feeling ripped off as well.  There is a reason I was/an “sober curious” and it isn’t because I was a problem drinker who couldn’t stop after 2-3.  It’s because those 2-3 weren’t really doing anything for me.  And I was feeling too depressed post drinking days.  Too lethargic.  In other words the joyful promise of beer in actuality was leaving me feeling ripped off. Also, like I noticed just above, I feel like giving myself tiny rewards for various milestones is kind of fun.  Like playing a sober game of sorts. 

So I’m not going back to drinking yet.  And a serious congrats on your 6 months.  That’s a great accomplishment.

Related, I see Tony Alva still skating at 67.  And apparently sober for something like 18 years.  I want to be skating in my 60s too.  And if being sober is a path towards that, well I know I value skating over drinking.

[Abyss1]

Im at 9mo and its probably the 2nd longest time I've been this sober and what actually makes me feel better about not drinking is the amount of money Im saving ...but I really do remember how shitty I would feel even after having 1 or 2 drinks, not to mention the DADS was always happening so its nice to wake up and not have terrible smelly shits

[Monolithic Flick]

Im at 9mo and its probably the 2nd longest time I've been this sober and what actually makes me feel better about not drinking is the amount of money Im saving ...but I really do remember how shitty I would feel even after having 1 or 2 drinks, not to mention the DADS was always happening so its nice to wake up and not have terrible smelly shits

For real.  Congrats!  And you said it better than I did and much more succinct.  Just one or two was leaving me feeling crappy.

[Abyss1]

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Im at 9mo and its probably the 2nd longest time I've been this sober and what actually makes me feel better about not drinking is the amount of money Im saving ...but I really do remember how shitty I would feel even after having 1 or 2 drinks, not to mention the DADS was always happening so its nice to wake up and not have terrible smelly shits

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For real.  Congrats!  And you said it better than I did and much more succinct.  Just one or two was leaving me feeling crappy.

Side note...I havent been to the doctor in almost 20yrs and paid out of pocket because of some shit I am dealing with and the doctor was really happy to hear that I dont drink or smoke...she did say if I can stop using ganja that would be perfect so Im considering that now

[Monolithic Flick]

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Im at 9mo and its probably the 2nd longest time I've been this sober and what actually makes me feel better about not drinking is the amount of money Im saving ...but I really do remember how shitty I would feel even after having 1 or 2 drinks, not to mention the DADS was always happening so its nice to wake up and not have terrible smelly shits

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For real.  Congrats!  And you said it better than I did and much more succinct.  Just one or two was leaving me feeling crappy.

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Side note...I havent been to the doctor in almost 20yrs and paid out of pocket because of some shit I am dealing with and the doctor was really happy to hear that I dont drink or smoke...she did say if I can stop using ganja that would be perfect so Im considering that now

That's awesome.  If I had the ability to rep (gnar?) everyone on this thread, I would and I'd start with your post here.  I'm at 45 days cannabis free now.  I don't know why your doctor wanted you to quit it.  I just wanted to feel more present and less out of it the next day.  I will say this, and i mean it honestly--I think around day 31 or 33 or so I went through hard out of nowhere depression.  And it lasted nearly a week.   Much better now, but I do wonder how much purging that stuff from my system played with my mind.  In my mind that was the majority of it.  Oh, one other warning...somewhere about a week into it or so I had vivid nightmares.  Like bad ones. I hear that's not abnormal.  But they went away.

I laugh more now normally than I did when I was partaking. Edit:  This happened even before the random depression.  And ifif I can skate and I do some exercise my moods are mostly way better.  Take it easy and good luck with it all.

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Im at 9mo and its probably the 2nd longest time I've been this sober and what actually makes me feel better about not drinking is the amount of money Im saving ...but I really do remember how shitty I would feel even after having 1 or 2 drinks, not to mention the DADS was always happening so its nice to wake up and not have terrible smelly shits

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For real.  Congrats!  And you said it better than I did and much more succinct.  Just one or two was leaving me feeling crappy.

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Side note...I havent been to the doctor in almost 20yrs and paid out of pocket because of some shit I am dealing with and the doctor was really happy to hear that I dont drink or smoke...she did say if I can stop using ganja that would be perfect so Im considering that now

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That's awesome.  If I had the ability to rep (gnar?) everyone on this thread, I would and I'd start with your post here.  I'm at 45 days cannabis free now.  I don't know why your doctor wanted you to quit it.  I just wanted to feel more present and less out of it the next day.  I will say this, and i mean it honestly--I think around day 31 or 33 or so I went through hard out of nowhere depression.  And it lasted nearly a week.   Much better now, but I do wonder how much purging that stuff from my system played with my mind.  In my mind that was the majority of it.  Oh, one other warning...somewhere about a week into it or so I had vivid nightmares.  Like bad ones. I hear that's not abnormal.  But they went away.

I laugh more now normally than I did when I was partaking. Edit:  This happened even before the random depression.  And ifif I can skate and I do some exercise my moods are mostly way better.  Take it easy and good luck with it all.

I've been a Cali medical Marijuana user since 2005 and around 2012 adopted a non-smoke approach.  Mainly edibles and water filtration vaping...I also use a lot of CBD these days.  I've also had very mild depression/ anxiety and anger management, so it pretty much helps with that.  But this last month I've been of any THC intake and feel the anxiety fucking with me/ part of the reason i needed to go see some professional.

She said if I did that then whenever I visit she wouldnt have to make consider it a potential cause for the visit.

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Im at 9mo and its probably the 2nd longest time I've been this sober and what actually makes me feel better about not drinking is the amount of money Im saving ...but I really do remember how shitty I would feel even after having 1 or 2 drinks, not to mention the DADS was always happening so its nice to wake up and not have terrible smelly shits

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For real.  Congrats!  And you said it better than I did and much more succinct.  Just one or two was leaving me feeling crappy.

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Side note...I havent been to the doctor in almost 20yrs and paid out of pocket because of some shit I am dealing with and the doctor was really happy to hear that I dont drink or smoke...she did say if I can stop using ganja that would be perfect so Im considering that now

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That's awesome.  If I had the ability to rep (gnar?) everyone on this thread, I would and I'd start with your post here.  I'm at 45 days cannabis free now.  I don't know why your doctor wanted you to quit it.  I just wanted to feel more present and less out of it the next day.  I will say this, and i mean it honestly--I think around day 31 or 33 or so I went through hard out of nowhere depression.  And it lasted nearly a week.   Much better now, but I do wonder how much purging that stuff from my system played with my mind.  In my mind that was the majority of it.  Oh, one other warning...somewhere about a week into it or so I had vivid nightmares.  Like bad ones. I hear that's not abnormal.  But they went away.

I laugh more now normally than I did when I was partaking. Edit:  This happened even before the random depression.  And ifif I can skate and I do some exercise my moods are mostly way better.  Take it easy and good luck with it all.

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I've been a Cali medical Marijuana user since 2005 and around 2012 adopted a non-smoke approach.  Mainly edibles and water filtration vaping...I also use a lot of CBD these days.  I've also had very mild depression/ anxiety and anger management, so it pretty much helps with that.  But this last month I've been of any THC intake and feel the anxiety fucking with me/ part of the reason i needed to go see some professional.

She said if I did that then whenever I visit she wouldnt have to make consider it a potential cause for the visit.

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Since you mentioned a Dr, Is this a psychiatrist? I worked in a health care setting on the mental health end and the psychiatrists had such a hard on cannabis use disorder. The therapists and social workers often had a bone to pick with them over that one.

Regardless, hope the anxiety levels out. Small amounts of herb, meditation, running, and yoga do wonders for this head case

Nurse Practitioner...she was pretty much dressed like a doctor and did everything a doctor would do.  I was having real trouble with being light headed and dizzy all day/last week to the point were I couldn't do shit but put my head down and hope it went away. 

I thought she would refer me to psychiatrist but said I need more vitamin D/ Sun and to get a blood test if it keeps up this week,  its been a lot better since monday so I told her I think it was taking time off from work that helped.  I run my own business and hit a brick wall as far as burnout and anxiety over projects/ clients. 

I don't really use a lot of ganja and really didnt want to bring it up but was being honest with her