repetitively selling yourself like that gets exhausting. I decided I wasn't going to bother going out with anyone unless I was truly enthused and that helped.
Another big reason I wasn't interested in Tinder before. It definitely gets old meeting someone new all the time, especially someone you feel like you have to tell all about yourself, just to get to smash with no intentions of taking anything further. I've hooked up with a couple girls in the past on there, but I just got over the process of talking to girls I really wasn't interested in, half of whom are all obviously so socially awkward they need Tinder to be that medium for meeting people... just to have them tell me they're "filling in blanks" while talking to me because they think I'm awkward. It's almost like a different Dunning-Kruger effect.
I got this girls number (again) that I talked to through Tinder around 3 years ago, and holy shit the idea of what some girls think Tinder is for is pretty crazy. I met up with her back then at like 11 pm to watch The Office or something, and long story short it ended up being like 2 hours of making out and steady groping, including nudity... with no real sexual acts taking place. What it came down to was, apparently she didn't shave anything so she felt insecure and that was because she "didn't know" we might hook up. I personally don't like much hair down there at all, but since I was already there I said fuck it and wasn't gonna complain. Because it had been 2 fucking hours of teasing, I ended up not being able to get a boner and nothing ended up happening. What else could you possibly be thinking that you're getting into with a guy you've never met before coming over at 11 pm that you met through a dating app? She wasn't the last girl that a situation like that occurred.
The real reason I mentioned this, though, is because even though we didn't have sex, we had been NAKED ON TOP OF EACH OTHER, and she's basically curving me as we speak, even though she already gave me her number again. Keep in mind, this girl isn't even really that attractive. I'd honestly give her like a 6/10, based mostly on how pretty her face is, otherwise she's pretty average, not fat, but like definitely not just skinny or like "thick".
Ironically (or maybe not), every girl I've met in reality is way hotter than any girl I've met on Tinder. It's like what is supposed to be easier is harder, and has worse results than the other option. Maybe Tinder just isn't for me?