real confessions

[iSk84thechicas]

I'm 32 and my life soley revolves around skateboarding, nothing else remotely interests me enough to stick with it, I'd like to have some other interest but I just can't hang.

i used to be addicted to weed and gained over 40 pounds in 3 years from eating too much and not skating enough. now im obsessed with my weight and diet. i feel like some alcoholics anonomyous guy where every conversation i have revolves around how much weight ive lost(50#'s+) and what I do to keep it off. basically i stopped doing anything fun, eating shitty and going out(not that i ever did). but being fat was miserable.

I'm pretty stupid, i barely went to school and it took me an extra year to graduate highschool. I have some street smarts but my school smarts are lacking for sure. anytime my friends start discussing anything political or scientific i feel like thi 12 year old that can't understand what the adults are discussing.

being obsessed with death is miserable. often times i have panic attacks when my wife is at work(she's a teacher ) and worry something bad has happened to her, wondering how ill deal with everything, how ill manage taking care of our animals,house,car payment etc. i sometimes dwell on it so much that my brain almost thinks it's happening. i have to step back and listen to some happy music in my headphones to drown the negativity out.

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Its one day at a time. Take it slow, dont worry

Skateboarding is your life. This is a good thing

Take at least 30 minutes to yourself every day to just be by yourself and push all worries out of your mind

make a gratitude list of all the things you are grateful for. It could be anything...wife, house, your deck, computer, skate shoes etc

Dont worry about not being smart enough. You can type right? you know whats 2 plus 2? do you know where you are right now? If you answered yes to any of these questions YOU ARE PRETTY FUCKING SMART.  Some people cant do this. THINK ABOUT IT.

Your panic attacks are a message.  Its telling you that you should e doing something. The worry i hear from you, is that you are DEPENDENT on your wife for everything.  Maybe its time to start looking after number 1.

Make sure to get good sleep and get out in the sun.  Being obsessed with death is miserable, but at the same time its UP TO YOU. 
Its your choice your life man. Whatever you dwell upon grows.  Dont worry everything will be ok.  Just keep skating

[ThugWaffle]

Finally got health insurance 6 months after that accident where I got fired from a job on the first day and had a nervous breakdown. She chalked it up as "extreme malaise" and that it would go away eventually. Still finding it hard to function like my old chipper self but it has gotten better over the months. My floaters are still there which is fucking annoying but the wrist pains have all but gone away. No choice but to get back on the horse at this point.

What got you fired?

[cuteandintimidating]

love is the answer

[dask8d00d]

Just realized I'm basically the Jereme Rogers of SLAP now I'm feeling some type of way

[poorlatino]

Just realized I'm basically the Jereme Rogers of SLAP now I'm feeling some type of way

You're more like our Trayvon Martin

[dask8d00d]

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Just realized I'm basically the Jereme Rogers of SLAP now I'm feeling some type of way

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You're more like our Trayvon Martin

LOL yeah you prolly right

[ThugWaffle]

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Just realized I'm basically the Jereme Rogers of SLAP now I'm feeling some type of way

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You're more like our Trayvon Martin

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LOL yeah you prolly right

To be honest, I read everything you post in Cam'ron's voice.

[yukaton]

A friend who just moved to Montreal recently died today, Hes the second one to move there and pass away.

[iSk84thechicas]

A friend who just moved to Montreal recently died today, Hes the second one to move there and pass away.

Death never pierces the heart so much as when it takes someone we love; cleaving the heart they held with their passing.?
― Brandon M. Herbert, Walking Wolf Road

I'm sincerely sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you are going through right now.  You need to take as much time as you need to grieve.  Remember that they are in a better place.  If you need counseling get it. If you need to cry do it.  If you need to write write.  Get it out of your chest.  Remember the good times you shared and the lessons they taught you.  And if you might think what lessons?  Everyone we meet in public or personal closeness teaches us something. If you can keep this, you haven't lost two friends, they are still there in your mind and heart for as long as you live. Good Luck man.

[Rumpleforeskin]

I started the Berra/Bronze beef.

[HeadInLionsMouth]

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My girlfriend of four years and 7 months cheated on me. She goes to UCSB (fuck that dumb ass party school) and she was at a party and a guy kissed her and she let it happen. She went to another party the next day, same guy was there, he did the same thing, kissed her and let it happen. She then told him she had a boyfriend. It doesn't matter now, she broke up with me 2 days ago because of what happened. It devastated me, I never thought she would be the kind of person to do that. Her reasoning is that she doesnt see me as a boyfriend anymore, but more of a best friend. So pretty much, I got friendzoned in a relationship. This is some bullshit, we've invested and spent so much time together and got through a lot of things together for it to end over some lousy kiss. I keep thinking in my head this happened because I am her first boyfriend and she wants to experience other things. I'm being selfish and thinking to myself that I dont want any other fucking guy to be with her or even have some kind of relation to her.This is really the first time it's ever happened to me and it's a terrible feeling. For the first time in my life I feel so down. I know most of you will laugh at my misfortune and crack jokes about it, it's alright, its the internet. But if anybody wants to give me some words to get by, that would be cool.

I know its not the end of the world for me, but my thoughts and emotions are clouding my judgment and I can't think straight.
Fuck UC Santa Barbara.

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Holy fuck that sucks dude. Honestly don't even trip out too hard over what may or may not have happened if you can, you don't wanna get into a space where every time you try to watch porn or see a sex scene in movie you just see her getting fucked, try not think about that aspect if you can. As much as it sucks it sounds like she wants to be with other people, and is more than likely being spurred on by a new group of slutty drunken friends, and the best friend shit is just a lie and a cowardly way out imo. �Cut and run for a while anyway, she sounds like she's more into her "new life" thing than being with you for the time being and if your not cool with that, which I'm sure you're not, there is really no point in trying to be friends imo. All that being said Im not sure how valid it is for me to be giving advice, since all my experience has only shown what not to do lol. If you have creative outlets pursue them to the the fullest or do something you've wanted to do but have been putting off. Good luck with it though man, just remember on the shittiest days the next one will probably be better!

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I sincerely do appreciate your words man. I'm sure it will take a lot of time. But if we're really supposed to be together, maybe time will work its way back to us and rekindle things. Or maybe Im just too stupid enough to believe in fairy tales. It's ridiculous, I've had 3 girlfriends before her and had sexual relations with 2 other girls before her but this is the only time that I've ever felt like she was the only girl in the world for me.
Thank you man, I really do appreciate it.

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I'm sorry for what happened to you. I can relate to your story. Listen If I were you, I would cut all contact, because in the end, she still hurt you. You feel hurt. She cheated on you due to a kiss. You dont need that in your life.  If you become her friend or anything thats totally fucking disrespect to you. She is demoting you.  And you shouldnt take that shit. Just let her know how you feel, by just cutting contact, leave her alone. Go skate, chill with the homies, crack the books, fuck some bitches or hit the gym. Do whatever you gotta do, but don't let any girl walk all over you. I don't know you man, but i know you're better than that shit.

Really though, it's going to be tough. I know I'm probably not saying anything you haven't heard already, but do not talk to her. Cut contact, not to give her the silent treatment or anything like that, but to protect yourself. 

I've been there man. Getting cheated on sucks so hard, but talking to her is going to make it worse. Trying to reason it out will make you feel even worse. Definitely talk it out with other people though. You gotta get it out, but she's not someone you should bother with. It's the worst, but time is really what you need. Hang in there.

[iSk84thechicas]

Finally got health insurance 6 months after that accident where I got fired from a job on the first day and had a nervous breakdown. She chalked it up as "extreme malaise" and that it would go away eventually. Still finding it hard to function like my old chipper self but it has gotten better over the months. My floaters are still there which is fucking annoying but the wrist pains have all but gone away. No choice but to get back on the horse at this point.

I haven't read the older post you made about getting fired on the same day, but I can tell you what you are going through is absolutely normal. Its about rejection.  I can relate after being fired from a job the same day i got a apartment, with next to no money saved up. Long story short i eventually lost the place, but the point is after dozens of jobs later i am just getting over that incident, and that was 2 years ago.  So don't be hard on yourself, just take it a day at a time and if you need to, a minute at a time.  And what exactly is causing those floaters?  I took psychology in college and thought floaters were normal....right?

[ThugWaffle]

I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

[Laban Fetus]

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Finally got health insurance 6 months after that accident where I got fired from a job on the first day and had a nervous breakdown. She chalked it up as "extreme malaise" and that it would go away eventually. Still finding it hard to function like my old chipper self but it has gotten better over the months. My floaters are still there which is fucking annoying but the wrist pains have all but gone away. No choice but to get back on the horse at this point.

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I haven't read the older post you made about getting fired on the same day, but I can tell you what you are going through is absolutely normal. Its about rejection.  I can relate after being fired from a job the same day i got a apartment, with next to no money saved up. Long story short i eventually lost the place, but the point is after dozens of jobs later i am just getting over that incident, and that was 2 years ago.  So don't be hard on yourself, just take it a day at a time and if you need to, a minute at a time.  And what exactly is causing those floaters?  I took psychology in college and thought floaters were normal....right?

Yeah, that's what the doctor told me. Floaters are genuinely normal but they made me more freaked out about already being extremely depressed and just made things worse. I didn't go outside for months. I spiraled out of control and was just not psychically well for a second. You're right though... I've been getting continually better and in some ways it's impacted my personality in a lot of good ways.

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Finally got health insurance 6 months after that accident where I got fired from a job on the first day and had a nervous breakdown. She chalked it up as "extreme malaise" and that it would go away eventually. Still finding it hard to function like my old chipper self but it has gotten better over the months. My floaters are still there which is fucking annoying but the wrist pains have all but gone away. No choice but to get back on the horse at this point.

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I haven't read the older post you made about getting fired on the same day, but I can tell you what you are going through is absolutely normal. Its about rejection.  I can relate after being fired from a job the same day i got a apartment, with next to no money saved up. Long story short i eventually lost the place, but the point is after dozens of jobs later i am just getting over that incident, and that was 2 years ago.  So don't be hard on yourself, just take it a day at a time and if you need to, a minute at a time.  And what exactly is causing those floaters?  I took psychology in college and thought floaters were normal....right?

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Yeah, that's what the doctor told me. Floaters are genuinely normal but they made me more freaked out about already being extremely depressed and just made things worse. I didn't go outside for months. I spiraled out of control and was just not psychically well for a second. You're right though... I've been getting continually better and in some ways it's impacted my personality in a lot of good ways.

smoke weed it made doug benson psychic in super high me brah

[iSk84thechicas]

I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

I have the same issue. Because of financial reasons I had to move to a different part of my city, and lost connection with my old skate buddies, lots of them stopped and many dont take is seriously anymore, others are hard to reach.  Now I feel like I'm a man on a mission Here's some advice: Just Do you.  Skate wherever you need to skate. Pretty soon if you just focus on you, you will find new skaters.  Sometimes I find it hard to keep my motivation, but I just try to remember, that WE WON'T SKATE FOREVER.  Time is funny in how it waits for no man. Are you going to let some sketchy fools fuck with your happiness? Go there when they arent, skate in the mornings, afternoons, whatever, I'm sure there are some downtown spots where you are.... If not, find something. Skating is something we all need to appreciate while we can.  Don't let anything fuck with your happiness. Watch videos, read quotes, listen to music pump yourself up. Do you.

[SodaJerk]

I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

Where do you live? What's the weather like? If its ok or you have somewhere undercover to skate you should definitely go out this week. Would it help if I Internet threatened you?

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I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

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I have the same issue. Because of financial reasons I had to move to a different part of my city, and lost connection with my old skate buddies, lots of them stopped and many dont take is seriously anymore, others are hard to reach.  Now I feel like I'm a man on a mission Here's some advice: Just Do you.  Skate wherever you need to skate. Pretty soon if you just focus on you, you will find new skaters.  Sometimes I find it hard to keep my motivation, but I just try to remember, that WE WON'T SKATE FOREVER.  Time is funny in how it waits for no man. Are you going to let some sketchy fools fuck with your happiness? Go there when they arent, skate in the mornings, afternoons, whatever, I'm sure there are some downtown spots where you are.... If not, find something. Skating is something we all need to appreciate while we can.  Don't let anything fuck with your happiness. Watch videos, read quotes, listen to music pump yourself up. Do you.

very well put. im at the same point sort of. coming out of it actually because ive actually been skating lately instead of being bummed that i have no one to skate with. for me, i just have to remind myself that i dont always have to do something thats difficult to have fun. if that means skating curbs and doing powerslides instead of trying the same ledge trick for 2 hours, then thats what ill do. i pretty much only skated one skatepark and my flatbar for the past few years, so just going to a spot ive never been before is always fun for me, no matter how stupid or shitty the spot might be.

but i know what anyone means when they say they lose the motivation once their friends quit and they have no one to skate with. if i want to get my friends to skate with me, its like i have to plan it with them a week in advance, and if they bail on me then the next time i ask them to go i feel like im being a pest. its not like how it was when we all skated regularly and all you had to do was send a few texts saying "hey, im thinking about skating here at around this time" and just go from there. id get excuses from them all the time and eventually i just stopped asking as much. i still hit my friends up once in a while, but id say i get 1 yes for ever 5 no's, which is lame.

i think the worst thing about all my friends quitting is that im not a very outgoing person, so meeting new skate friends is really hard for me. theres people i know at the park, but thats about as far as the friendships go. if were not at the park at the same time, ive got no way of getting ahold of these people.

[ThugWaffle]

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I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

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I have the same issue. Because of financial reasons I had to move to a different part of my city, and lost connection with my old skate buddies, lots of them stopped and many dont take is seriously anymore, others are hard to reach.  Now I feel like I'm a man on a mission Here's some advice: Just Do you.  Skate wherever you need to skate. Pretty soon if you just focus on you, you will find new skaters.  Sometimes I find it hard to keep my motivation, but I just try to remember, that WE WON'T SKATE FOREVER.  Time is funny in how it waits for no man. Are you going to let some sketchy fools fuck with your happiness? Go there when they arent, skate in the mornings, afternoons, whatever, I'm sure there are some downtown spots where you are.... If not, find something. Skating is something we all need to appreciate while we can.  Don't let anything fuck with your happiness. Watch videos, read quotes, listen to music pump yourself up. Do you.

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very well put. im at the same point sort of. coming out of it actually because ive actually been skating lately instead of being bummed that i have no one to skate with. for me, i just have to remind myself that i dont always have to do something thats difficult to have fun. if that means skating curbs and doing powerslides instead of trying the same ledge trick for 2 hours, then thats what ill do. i pretty much only skated one skatepark and my flatbar for the past few years, so just going to a spot ive never been before is always fun for me, no matter how stupid or shitty the spot might be.

but i know what anyone means when they say they lose the motivation once their friends quit and they have no one to skate with. if i want to get my friends to skate with me, its like i have to plan it with them a week in advance, and if they bail on me then the next time i ask them to go i feel like im being a pest. its not like how it was when we all skated regularly and all you had to do was send a few texts saying "hey, im thinking about skating here at around this time" and just go from there. id get excuses from them all the time and eventually i just stopped asking as much. i still hit my friends up once in a while, but id say i get 1 yes for ever 5 no's, which is lame.

i think the worst thing about all my friends quitting is that im not a very outgoing person, so meeting new skate friends is really hard for me. theres people i know at the park, but thats about as far as the friendships go. if were not at the park at the same time, ive got no way of getting ahold of these people.

That's exactly one of my problems. I'm not outgoing, in fact, I get annoyed of people easily. There's still "friends" that go to the park so I'm not skating alone but they're not my immediate friends, they're cool though, but it's still not the same vibe you get from the homies you grew up skating with. But if skating alone is whats new on my plate, then it is what is. I won't stop skating. Only downside is not being able to film as much as you'd like and all of those side things that come with skating but that's not important.

[dillanharp]

I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

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I'm not trying to talk shit or anything, but dude, that's most parks. 

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I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

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I'm not trying to talk shit or anything, but dude, that's most parks. 

i kind of make it my mission to go to different parks and be that dude

[escapistfool]

Seriously, to everybody who has given me solid advice about my ex-GF trouble, thank you.

On a serious and good note, I'm happier. I'm starting to forget about her and it also helps that I can do whatever the fuck I want right now. I get to skate more, save MORE money since I have nobody to spend it on but myself, and I recently got inspired to lose some weight.

Now the only thing that's catching my attention is this one girl. My homegirl recently told me that she has single friends and I asked her if one of her friends who goes by the name of Samantha was one of those single girls, and to my surprise she is. So my friend likes to play Cupid and she told Samantha that I thought she was a cutie and Samantha allowed my friend to give me her number. To which I texted her and formally introduced myself. We chit-chatted for a while through texting, I like that she doesn't text one word texts, Im guessing that's a good thing. She's actually making conversation which I really like.
So move on the next day, I go to my university to pay off some tuition (which left me broke but oh well that's another case) and I was texting her and turns out she goes to the same university as me and she worked there as well. I lucked out and she was getting off work at 5 (I finished all my errands around 4:40) and I asked her if she wanted to meet up and hang for a bit (I had things to do later on) and she was up for it.
So we talked and talked, and I seriously did not expect this so quick but I'm actually digging this girl so far. She's real cool, conversational, and it doesn't hurt that she's a looker and has a big butt lol. So after the little hang out, I walked her to her car and we parted ways. 10 minutes later, my homegirl texted me saying that Samantha called her and told her that she thought I was interesting, tall, and cute. She also liked that I liked to talk so that was also a good sign. So here I am stoked, loving this new year so far.

So now here comes my new entry for real confessions:
I've been out of the dating game for a long time after coming off a long term relationship.
I don't really know how to approach this new girl, to the point that I won't come off as too eager but I also wanna stand out in her head. So if any of you have tips and ideas to how to approach and ask this out on dates or whatever, please feel free!
Yeah it's a bit lame that I don't even know how to do this anymore, but being in a relationship for so long where you got comfortable and used it to it, you tend to forget. (or at least I do).
Help a brother out!

[IanBZHD]

So now here comes my new entry for real confessions:
I've been out of the dating game for a long time after coming off a long term relationship.
I don't really know how to approach this new girl, to the point that I won't come off as too eager but I also wanna stand out in her head. So if any of you have tips and ideas to how to approach and ask this out on dates or whatever, please feel free!
Yeah it's a bit lame that I don't even know how to do this anymore, but being in a relationship for so long where you got comfortable and used it to it, you tend to forget. (or at least I do).
Help a brother out!

holy hell, why are you in the exactly situation im in? im at the same point with a new chick, and im fucked as what to do next. When the situation arises im sure you'll just go with the flow, thats the best and most honest way to go about it.

But like you, I also do not want to fuck this up.

[ThugWaffle]

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I'm at that point in life where you're friends are doing something else and it's up to you to keep skating. I never want to stop skating cause it's the only thing I'm good at and I enjoy. I'm having serious motivational issues to pick up the board and go at it myself. I feel like the spark isn't the same anymore, and I wanna keep going but It hasn't been easy for me, plus, my park is horrible it has the worst vibes to it, theres just random sketchy people smoking weed there all day.

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I'm not trying to talk shit or anything, but dude, that's most parks. 

Yeah but it kinda gets out of hand when the park is located in the middle of three different hoods. The vibe is certainly not the smoke weed and skate all day type of thing. I just gotta stop being a bitch about it and just skate, I guess.

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So now here comes my new entry for real confessions:
I've been out of the dating game for a long time after coming off a long term relationship.
I don't really know how to approach this new girl, to the point that I won't come off as too eager but I also wanna stand out in her head. So if any of you have tips and ideas to how to approach and ask this out on dates or whatever, please feel free!
Yeah it's a bit lame that I don't even know how to do this anymore, but being in a relationship for so long where you got comfortable and used it to it, you tend to forget. (or at least I do).
Help a brother out!

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holy hell, why are you in the exactly situation im in? im at the same point with a new chick, and im fucked as what to do next. When the situation arises im sure you'll just go with the flow, thats the best and most honest way to go about it.

But like you, I also do not want to fuck this up.

if you want to make a good impression on a date, take her someplace shes never been. you might have to think about it for a while, but think of a place thats different that a place her and her friends would hang out at, or a place that some other guy might have already taken her. it can be a cool bar or restaurant, or someplace kinda unique. basically just avoid places like the olive garden and the movie theater, or the clubs that the top 40 radio stations promote. you dont need to go all out and try to be fancy and impress her that way, just take her some place cool in your area that you know a lot of people dont really know about. escapist, it sounds like youve been making the right moves so far. just get creative. it doesnt even have to be a place where you spend money. my first girlfriend i took to this park and back about a half mile in the woods was the remains of henry fords vacation home. theres a guest house thats still standing, and his main house that burned down, but the foundation is still there, along with a big stone fireplace. people have planted flowers and stuff inside where the house used to be and its pretty cool to go check out. then farther back in the woods he had these huge swimming pools with stadium seating and this like mini power plant thing that powered the place. so we walked around there for a while and explored, then i got us lost on the trails, it downpoured, and we got eaten alive by mosquitos, and she ended up ruining her suede converses. i thought i fucked up big time, but she really enjoyed herself probably just because it wasnt something she had done before on a date. obviously not all girls would take that situation well, but you get the point. you just need to show her youre an interesting guy who does interesting and exciting shit.

edit: i guess i read your question wrong. you were asking for advice on how to ask her on a date. just ask her. say "hey, are you free this day? yeah? well do you want to go do this with me?" if shes into you, she will say yes. if she makes up a bullshit excuse or takes too long to reply, forget about her. escapist, it should like youre doing well with this chick, just ask her out. if shes hanging out with you and rushing to tell her friend about it, then im sure youre good.

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So now here comes my new entry for real confessions:
I've been out of the dating game for a long time after coming off a long term relationship.
I don't really know how to approach this new girl, to the point that I won't come off as too eager but I also wanna stand out in her head. So if any of you have tips and ideas to how to approach and ask this out on dates or whatever, please feel free!
Yeah it's a bit lame that I don't even know how to do this anymore, but being in a relationship for so long where you got comfortable and used it to it, you tend to forget. (or at least I do).
Help a brother out!

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holy hell, why are you in the exactly situation im in? im at the same point with a new chick, and im fucked as what to do next. When the situation arises im sure you'll just go with the flow, thats the best and most honest way to go about it.

But like you, I also do not want to fuck this up.

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if you want to make a good impression on a date, take her someplace shes never been. you might have to think about it for a while, but think of a place thats different that a place her and her friends would hang out at, or a place that some other guy might have already taken her. it can be a cool bar or restaurant, or someplace kinda unique. basically just avoid places like the olive garden and the movie theater, or the clubs that the top 40 radio stations promote. you dont need to go all out and try to be fancy and impress her that way, just take her some place cool in your area that you know a lot of people dont really know about. escapist, it sounds like youve been making the right moves so far. just get creative. it doesnt even have to be a place where you spend money. my first girlfriend i took to this park and back about a half mile in the woods was the remains of henry fords vacation home. theres a guest house thats still standing, and his main house that burned down, but the foundation is still there, along with a big stone fireplace. people have planted flowers and stuff inside where the house used to be and its pretty cool to go check out. then farther back in the woods he had these huge swimming pools with stadium seating and this like mini power plant thing that powered the place. so we walked around there for a while and explored, then i got us lost on the trails, it downpoured, and we got eaten alive by mosquitos, and she ended up ruining her suede converses. i thought i fucked up big time, but she really enjoyed herself probably just because it wasnt something she had done before on a date. obviously not all girls would take that situation well, but you get the point. you just need to show her youre an interesting guy who does interesting and exciting shit.

edit: i guess i read your question wrong. you were asking for advice on how to ask her on a date. just ask her. say "hey, are you free this day? yeah? well do you want to go do this with me?" if shes into you, she will say yes. if she makes up a bullshit excuse or takes too long to reply, forget about her. escapist, it should like youre doing well with this chick, just ask her out. if shes hanging out with you and rushing to tell her friend about it, then im sure youre good.

Damn dude. Hell yeah! I really appreciate everything you said. I will definitely keep that in mind.
I asked her out on a date and she said yes. We're gonna go get shaved ice. (shaved ice and ice cream combined. its actually really good). And then for the next one, I'm thinking about taking her to the Los Angeles County Museum of Arts. It's this place
All those things you told me just pretty much inspired me to not be a generic typical guy, I am an interesting guy and I shouldnt be afraid to show her what I got.

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So now here comes my new entry for real confessions:
I've been out of the dating game for a long time after coming off a long term relationship.
I don't really know how to approach this new girl, to the point that I won't come off as too eager but I also wanna stand out in her head. So if any of you have tips and ideas to how to approach and ask this out on dates or whatever, please feel free!
Yeah it's a bit lame that I don't even know how to do this anymore, but being in a relationship for so long where you got comfortable and used it to it, you tend to forget. (or at least I do).
Help a brother out!

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holy hell, why are you in the exactly situation im in? im at the same point with a new chick, and im fucked as what to do next. When the situation arises im sure you'll just go with the flow, thats the best and most honest way to go about it.

But like you, I also do not want to fuck this up.

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if you want to make a good impression on a date, take her someplace shes never been. you might have to think about it for a while, but think of a place thats different that a place her and her friends would hang out at, or a place that some other guy might have already taken her. it can be a cool bar or restaurant, or someplace kinda unique. basically just avoid places like the olive garden and the movie theater, or the clubs that the top 40 radio stations promote. you dont need to go all out and try to be fancy and impress her that way, just take her some place cool in your area that you know a lot of people dont really know about. escapist, it sounds like youve been making the right moves so far. just get creative. it doesnt even have to be a place where you spend money. my first girlfriend i took to this park and back about a half mile in the woods was the remains of henry fords vacation home. theres a guest house thats still standing, and his main house that burned down, but the foundation is still there, along with a big stone fireplace. people have planted flowers and stuff inside where the house used to be and its pretty cool to go check out. then farther back in the woods he had these huge swimming pools with stadium seating and this like mini power plant thing that powered the place. so we walked around there for a while and explored, then i got us lost on the trails, it downpoured, and we got eaten alive by mosquitos, and she ended up ruining her suede converses. i thought i fucked up big time, but she really enjoyed herself probably just because it wasnt something she had done before on a date. obviously not all girls would take that situation well, but you get the point. you just need to show her youre an interesting guy who does interesting and exciting shit.

edit: i guess i read your question wrong. you were asking for advice on how to ask her on a date. just ask her. say "hey, are you free this day? yeah? well do you want to go do this with me?" if shes into you, she will say yes. if she makes up a bullshit excuse or takes too long to reply, forget about her. escapist, it should like youre doing well with this chick, just ask her out. if shes hanging out with you and rushing to tell her friend about it, then im sure youre good.

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Damn dude. Hell yeah! I really appreciate everything you said. I will definitely keep that in mind.
I asked her out on a date and she said yes. We're gonna go get shaved ice. (shaved ice and ice cream combined. its actually really good). And then for the next one, I'm thinking about taking her to the Los Angeles County Museum of Arts. It's this place
All those things you told me just pretty much inspired me to not be a generic typical guy, I am an interesting guy and I shouldnt be afraid to show her what I got.

keep unsolicited dick pic's on the backburner for now though

[IanBZHD]

So, i've been realizing in the last couple months i just don't really give a shit about anything.

All last semester i just smoked weed and barely passed a few of my classes, failing one. Im an engineering student and the classes are fucking hard. I'm a senior now so i don't have much left to go. But i also just want to do good in school because i feel obligated to. I'm a nice guy i think, i never get mad at my friends or get into any fights whatsoever. But im always the dude to dip from the bar or anywhere earlier then the rest of the group, just cuz im bored or don't care about whats going on.

Also, i feel like i go for chicks that are too hot for me and i won't be satisfied to have a legit girlfriend unless she's a straight dime (in my eyes). I ignore the signs that a girl isn't good for me, like chicks that text one word answers that probably have no brain and i wouldn't be interested in anyway.

I love skating obviously, and i do have some days where im hyped and in a good mood. But most of my days are just trying to speed the day up to get to the next. I skate a ton, but its really all i enjoy doing. I've been feeling very disconnected socially these last few months, and i guess it just get spilled out in increments on SLAP.

I've been justifying all of my unhappiness with the fact that i'm so close to getting my degree, that once i do, i'll move immediately to california or colorado to start my life completely over. I don't know if that will really make me happy, but i feel like Indiana (where i live) is just dragging me down.

I need SLAP advice. Even stupid shit, it might make me crack a smile.

[Coastal Fever]

I spent the past 5 years wondering if I was unhappy because of where I lived, or if it was me that had issues I needed to work on.  Then recently I visited another city, loved every minute of it, and realized it's definitely where I live that's bringing me down.  If you think you'd be happier leaving Indiana for somewhere else, you probably will be.

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So, i've been realizing in the last couple months i just don't really give a shit about anything.

All last semester i just smoked weed and barely passed a few of my classes, failing one. Im an engineering student and the classes are fucking hard. I'm a senior now so i don't have much left to go. But i also just want to do good in school because i feel obligated to. I'm a nice guy i think, i never get mad at my friends or get into any fights whatsoever. But im always the dude to dip from the bar or anywhere earlier then the rest of the group, just cuz im bored or don't care about whats going on.

Also, i feel like i go for chicks that are too hot for me and i won't be satisfied to have a legit girlfriend unless she's a straight dime (in my eyes). I ignore the signs that a girl isn't good for me, like chicks that text one word answers that probably have no brain and i wouldn't be interested in anyway.

I love skating obviously, and i do have some days where im hyped and in a good mood. But most of my days are just trying to speed the day up to get to the next. I skate a ton, but its really all i enjoy doing. I've been feeling very disconnected socially these last few months, and i guess it just get spilled out in increments on SLAP.

I've been justifying all of my unhappiness with the fact that i'm so close to getting my degree, that once i do, i'll move immediately to california or colorado to start my life completely over. I don't know if that will really make me happy, but i feel like Indiana (where i live) is just dragging me down.

I need SLAP advice. Even stupid shit, it might make me crack a smile.

You have no real problems.

-finish your shit, then smoke

-find a pretty girl that you click with and nail it down.

-If you are not somewhat happy with your current situation (youth, freedom), then your future might suck. you need to be content with the present as well as taking steps to secure a happy and prosperous future. juggle that shit.

-typical young person Midwest attitude. Hating where you are, and thinking big cities are superior. While big cities are epicenters for culture, a small city can offer some refreshing aspects, which are completely up to you to decide what those aspects are. By all means move if you get a job, but keep in mind that happiness is not necessarily waiting for you in Colorado or California. Transferring your life can be as shitty as staying put.

Sounds like you have some good things going on, so sit back and enjoy your time to shine and get your shit done.  Good luck