I'm 32 and my life soley revolves around skateboarding, nothing else remotely interests me enough to stick with it, I'd like to have some other interest but I just can't hang.
i used to be addicted to weed and gained over 40 pounds in 3 years from eating too much and not skating enough. now im obsessed with my weight and diet. i feel like some alcoholics anonomyous guy where every conversation i have revolves around how much weight ive lost(50#'s+) and what I do to keep it off. basically i stopped doing anything fun, eating shitty and going out(not that i ever did). but being fat was miserable.
I'm pretty stupid, i barely went to school and it took me an extra year to graduate highschool. I have some street smarts but my school smarts are lacking for sure. anytime my friends start discussing anything political or scientific i feel like thi 12 year old that can't understand what the adults are discussing.
being obsessed with death is miserable. often times i have panic attacks when my wife is at work(she's a teacher ) and worry something bad has happened to her, wondering how ill deal with everything, how ill manage taking care of our animals,house,car payment etc. i sometimes dwell on it so much that my brain almost thinks it's happening. i have to step back and listen to some happy music in my headphones to drown the negativity out.
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Its one day at a time. Take it slow, dont worry
Skateboarding is your life. This is a good thing
Take at least 30 minutes to yourself every day to just be by yourself and push all worries out of your mind
make a gratitude list of all the things you are grateful for. It could be anything...wife, house, your deck, computer, skate shoes etc
Dont worry about not being smart enough. You can type right? you know whats 2 plus 2? do you know where you are right now? If you answered yes to any of these questions YOU ARE PRETTY FUCKING SMART. Some people cant do this. THINK ABOUT IT.
Your panic attacks are a message. Its telling you that you should e doing something. The worry i hear from you, is that you are DEPENDENT on your wife for everything. Maybe its time to start looking after number 1.
Make sure to get good sleep and get out in the sun. Being obsessed with death is miserable, but at the same time its UP TO YOU.
Its your choice your life man. Whatever you dwell upon grows. Dont worry everything will be ok. Just keep skating