SOBRIETY

[swellbowed]

I haven't had a drink in 2 years and 7 months. It actually feels really good. I was really struggling with my drinking problem and if I didn't stop it probably would've killed me. I still smoke but I'm trying to cut back on that eventually. Honestly, this is the happiest I've been in a very long time. If anyone ever needs someone to talk to or just going through it - Holler at me in a message. 

[Painted Baby]

One of my weed dealers brought it up that he sells Percs and at first I turned him down right away. But recently been going through some tough times and I’ve been very tempted. Just posting here to make sure I don’t go down that route.

Can you find a new weed person? What they're selling is like those free cologne samples they give you in magazines. Such a small amount that it can't hurt to give it away. Of course they want you to buy the whole bottle and be a customer for life. In addition, those pills are almost definitely bootleg and have fent in them and you could die just playing around.

[BackToTheDIY]

1 month booze free.
Sharpening.

Tbh this thread and a lot of yall have really helped me, by hearing others stories and circumstances, yall have helped me check myself and help put things into perspective.

Good looks yall.

Keep it up.

Who Dey.

PEACE

[Huell Howser]

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One of my weed dealers brought it up that he sells Percs and at first I turned him down right away. But recently been going through some tough times and I’ve been very tempted. Just posting here to make sure I don’t go down that route.

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Can you find a new weed person? What they're selling is like those free cologne samples they give you in magazines. Such a small amount that it can't hurt to give it away. Of course they want you to buy the whole bottle and be a customer for life. In addition, those pills are almost definitely bootleg and have fent in them and you could die just playing around.

 

@Idk 100% stay away from those if you can^ whatever you’re feeling now will pass and is definitely not worth the very high potential downward spiral that is getting into opiates

stay up!!

[jamersonbass]

I had 7 days booze free and on January 8th I ended an 11 year longs relationship.  Fallen the fuck off rn.  Would love any advice.

[BackToTheDIY]

I had 7 days booze free and on January 8th I ended an 11 year longs relationship.  Fallen the fuck off rn.  Would love any advice.

Hate to hear that dude .. I wish I had anything to say to console you.

My advice would be to think about how much worse the anxiety and whirlwind of thoughts and emotions are when your hungover .
And that not being hungover can really help control you to be more in control of your emotions , and in turn will help your rational and balance.
You can be good again dude , sooner than you think.

[Frank and Fred]

I had 7 days booze free and on January 8th I ended an 11 year longs relationship.  Fallen the fuck off rn.  Would love any advice.

Just don't beat yourself up. It's part of the process of recovery. You can get back up.

I typically do Dry January and the last two years, I've extended it to the Spring Equinox... I'm not a hippy, just seemed like a good date to aim for. Anyway, this year, I've noticed my mind is in over-drive, with so many intrusive thoughts, not all negative but the chatter has been hard to cope with. I've been very tempted to reach for the beer to calm them down... Instead I cut back my caffeine and tried to increase my exercise... I think it might be helping. I should meditate more frequently also.

[Newphone]

I had 7 days booze free and on January 8th I ended an 11 year longs relationship.  Fallen the fuck off rn.  Would love any advice.

If you do drink, think about if it helped tomorrow.  There were so many times I couldn’t imagine not drinking, a fight with my lady, bad news at work, bad news at life, money worries.  Once you get some time sober and face some of that shit without drinking, you might be surprised that you used to think it was a good idea to pile on that on top of the problem, being a depressant and what not.  Maybe not, but when I have a problem now I’m like at least I’m not gonna have alcohol or a hangover adding to it tomorrow. Can’t imagine wanting to drink after something stressful or depressing, but again not sure if that’s everyone’s experience.

Good luck getting a handle on it, you can absolutely do it, anyone can I think, and don’t get defeated if you slip or whatever, kinda like skating, next try you got it.

[Maccat]

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Anybody give up the drink for January?  I'm on day 2, and know I'm in for some challenges after a shitty day at work or life happening in general, but I was relieved that I haven't been shaky or sweaty so far.  Fingers crossed.

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If you aren't absolutely miserable on day 2, you are probably good.  I'd like to post some of this stuff though, just because it's often overlooked.  Alot of AA teetotal communities would scorn me for suggesting someone detoxing to drink a little bit to avoid the dangers of alcohol withdrawal.

If you are drinking 10+ units a day, or are spending days at a time without your BAC dropping to .00, you should consider tapering.  Basically, have an idea of how much you drink a day and cut your consumption by a few units a day.  Or drink just enough, so that you can function without being absolutely miserable.  The real dangers of seizures come in around the day 3-4 mark, which is when people usually start to feel better.  If you start hearing or seeing shit, get some alcohol in you.  If your heart starts pounding uncontrollably 120+ bpm, get alcohol/get to the hospital asap.

If you drink alot, I'd suggest taking a B complex vitamin everyday.  Alcohol depletes your body of B vitamins, specifically B-1.  It's not good for you, and long term can cause wet brain.  If you know an old alcoholic that kinda isn't there anymore, repeats themselves, that's wet brain.  I'd also suggest a magnesium supplement before bed.  Alcohol depletes magnesium and a supplement can help a little bit with the anxiety and to also get a solid shit out.

https://hams.cc/withdrawal/
https://hams.cc/odds/

Completely agree.

Dad has it, drank his whole life. Repeated himself his whole life. Long story short, once in the emergency room all his B vitamins were gone.

So depleted that his eye was cocked inward. It’s fucked. He was on a B Vitamin drip for two weeks to get his levels right.

Seeing him drink like that always had me keep it in check. All the best to those putting it behind them. Sobriety is awesome when you give it a chance.

[JoseCansnake0]

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I had 7 days booze free and on January 8th I ended an 11 year longs relationship.  Fallen the fuck off rn.  Would love any advice.

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If you do drink, think about if it helped tomorrow.  There were so many times I couldn’t imagine not drinking, a fight with my lady, bad news at work, bad news at life, money worries.  Once you get some time sober and face some of that shit without drinking, you might be surprised that you used to think it was a good idea to pile on that on top of the problem, being a depressant and what not.  Maybe not, but when I have a problem now I’m like at least I’m not gonna have alcohol or a hangover adding to it tomorrow. Can’t imagine wanting to drink after something stressful or depressing, but again not sure if that’s everyone’s experience.

Good luck getting a handle on it, you can absolutely do it, anyone can I think, and don’t get defeated if you slip or whatever, kinda like skating, next try you got it.

Bravo dude, well said. I'm also a PM away if anybody needs to have a conversation. I'm almost 1.5 years sober, and willing to lend a helping hand with my journey.

[jamersonbass]

Appreciate all the advice Pals.  Definitely not drinking tonight.  I have to open at work in the morning after closing tonight.  Looking forward to the quality of sleep.

[Steely Daniel]

I  feel like I'm having mild/moderate withdrawal symptoms. I've been sweating profusely, mostly from my hands and feet, having a tough time sleeping and feeling more anxious than usual. Also randomly feely very nauseous and queasy for seemingly no particular reason. Chills too I forgot to mention.

I had been drinking at least 3/4 of a 750ml bottle of Jim Beam pretty much every night for the last month or so. I think I'm going to have a glass of wine and see if that helps. I'd rather not but I don't want to make things worse. I've never felt this way and it's kind of scary I don't wanna have any serious side effects.

[JoseCansnake0]

I  feel like I'm having mild/moderate withdrawal symptoms. I've been sweating profusely, mostly from my hands and feet, having a tough time sleeping and feeling more anxious than usual. Also randomly feely very nauseous and queasy for seemingly no particular reason. Chills too I forgot to mention.

I had been drinking at least 3/4 of a 750ml bottle of Jim Beam pretty much every night for the last month or so. I think I'm going to have a glass of wine and see if that helps. I'd rather not but I don't want to make things worse. I've never felt this way and it's kind of scary I don't wanna have any serious side effects.

I'm not a doctor, but those all sound like withdrawl symptoms.

The road to sobriety isn't easy, and this is the hardest part. Again, not a doctor, but start to slowly reduce your intake over the course of a month. Have a quitting date in mind and stick to it. Might need to take advantage of PTO or mental health days for work. You've got this homie

[Easy Slider]

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I  feel like I'm having mild/moderate withdrawal symptoms. I've been sweating profusely, mostly from my hands and feet, having a tough time sleeping and feeling more anxious than usual. Also randomly feely very nauseous and queasy for seemingly no particular reason. Chills too I forgot to mention.

I had been drinking at least 3/4 of a 750ml bottle of Jim Beam pretty much every night for the last month or so. I think I'm going to have a glass of wine and see if that helps. I'd rather not but I don't want to make things worse. I've never felt this way and it's kind of scary I don't wanna have any serious side effects.

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I'm not a doctor, but those all sound like withdrawl symptoms.

The road to sobriety isn't easy, and this is the hardest part. Again, not a doctor, but start to slowly reduce your intake over the course of a month. Have a quitting date in mind and stick to it. Might need to take advantage of PTO or mental health days for work. You've got this homie

Imo you should seek medical advise instead of drinking again.

[Sleazy]

i'm on day 9 of a dry 30. it's not a new years thing. as part of this business coaching i do i went to a talk that was focused on the power of enduring stressful situations and it recommended doing this annual misogi as a mental reset which is supposed to help reenergize you and make you more resilient to stressful situations. a misogi is supposed to be something that you won't enjoy, that will stress you out a bit and that you have a 50/50 chance of completing. i choose to do a dry 30, another guy in my group was doing a 3 month plant based diet, etc.

so many people with way more experience than me on going sober in here but one thing that was really compelling to me was that i actually went through alcohol withdrawals. wasn't really expecting that. for me that was exhaustion around day 3-4 and then upset stomach that is finally clearing up. been sleeping great though and enjoying it for the most part.

my wife turned me on to this app I Am Sober that is pretty cool for doing the day math for you.

[FUBAR]

Congrats to all battling for sobriety. Keep it up…it’s not easy at all but stay strong and use your support systems. PM me if you dont Have one and/or want to chat. My story is in this thread somewhere.

[Steely Daniel]

I'm doing better now thanks fellas. I had considered seeking actual medical attention but I didn't want to wait hours in emergency or hours out in the cold in the embarrassing line at the clinic. Might see if I can get in with my doctor this week but such a long wait with everything. Haven't had a drink other than the 2 small glasses of wine the other day and I'm feeling okay other than my stomach killing me.

[pugmaster]

I guess I knew I had a drinking problem when I didn't drink for 2 days and ended up defecating a solid log versus a violent water shit.

Stay up everyone, keep your eyes on the prize. Godspeed.

[Easy Slider]

I'm doing better now thanks fellas. I had considered seeking actual medical attention but I didn't want to wait hours in emergency or hours out in the cold in the embarrassing line at the clinic. Might see if I can get in with my doctor this week but such a long wait with everything. Haven't had a drink other than the 2 small glasses of wine the other day and I'm feeling okay other than my stomach killing me.

Good to hear bro, I would try to get that appointment and get a blood test. Tell the doctor what you’ve been through (be honest, no shame) he might squeeze you in. From what I understand you will almost certainly have some deficiencies (vitamins) that need to be treated.

[Steely Daniel]

Fucked up again. Still drinking Crown Royal at 6:30 am. If I make more than 4-5 posts in a day I'm either drunk or angry about something. Possibly both. Usually, I save my negative posting for the dumpster boxing forum I frequent on the side at least though.

Trying to stay positive, instead of some stupid drunk whoring attempts, I quickly abandoned that and looked up more of our local indigenous languages after doing a bit of research on the native art related to the postage stamp thread in the main section. I'm trying to learn more words and sounds so that maybe I can help my kids preserve part of their language and culture from their mother's side. Another positive note is that I only drank 1/3 of the bottle instead of the normal 2/3 or finishing the damn thing.

The biggest issue I feel right now other than mental health stuff is that I have nothing going on and no responsibilities which makes it hard to stay on the wagon. I still haven't seen my kids in over a month now. Unemployed on some seasonal shit. It's been raining nonstop forever it feels like and any dry days that I could have skated I've squandered by sleeping through them being extremely depressed. There are probably a few things I should do but other than basic chores, hygiene, and eating, I have no motivation to really take any bold steps or put myself out there or try something new or fucking anything I don't know.

Everything feels fucked. I'm tired of screaming into the slap abyss with this stuff but I also can't bother any of the few people still willing to talk to me in my life which is just my immediate family and my partner who hates me half the time anyway.

I do have an appointment with my new counsellor tomorrow but feels like I'm either gonna clam up or just gush too much shit out, despite the fact that I couldn't wait until this afternoon and already started here...

On top of that, my insides have been killing me all week other than one day I held everything together. Stress eating to replace drinking might be even worse for me at this point. I have no idea. Too afraid to go to the doctor now. Time to go read the Bam thread to feel better about myself.

[funeral_tuxedo]

Fucked up again. Still drinking Crown Royal at 6:30 am. If I make more than 4-5 posts in a day I'm either drunk or angry about something. Possibly both. Usually, I save my negative posting for the dumpster boxing forum I frequent on the side at least though.

Trying to stay positive, instead of some stupid drunk whoring attempts, I quickly abandoned that and looked up more of our local indigenous languages after doing a bit of research on the native art related to the postage stamp thread in the main section. I'm trying to learn more words and sounds so that maybe I can help my kids preserve part of their language and culture from their mother's side. Another positive note is that I only drank 1/3 of the bottle instead of the normal 2/3 or finishing the damn thing.

The biggest issue I feel right now other than mental health stuff is that I have nothing going on and no responsibilities which makes it hard to stay on the wagon. I still haven't seen my kids in over a month now. Unemployed on some seasonal shit. It's been raining nonstop forever it feels like and any dry days that I could have skated I've squandered by sleeping through them being extremely depressed. There are probably a few things I should do but other than basic chores, hygiene, and eating, I have no motivation to really take any bold steps or put myself out there or try something new or fucking anything I don't know.

Everything feels fucked. I'm tired of screaming into the slap abyss with this stuff but I also can't bother any of the few people still willing to talk to me in my life which is just my immediate family and my partner who hates me half the time anyway.

I do have an appointment with my new counsellor tomorrow but feels like I'm either gonna clam up or just gush too much shit out, despite the fact that I couldn't wait until this afternoon and already started here...

On top of that, my insides have been killing me all week other than one day I held everything together. Stress eating to replace drinking might be even worse for me at this point. I have no idea. Too afraid to go to the doctor now. Time to go read the Bam thread to feel better about myself.

@Steely Daniel good luck with your new counselor. I’m not a medical expert but it sounds like you might want to talk to a doctor about withdrawal symptoms.

[Sleazy]

Day 25 of my dry cleaning 30 and pretty happy with how it’s gone I’ve had a pretty stressful month. I had to put my 7 year old dog down who had cancer and the recession has my business on the ropes so lots of stress to navigate. But the good sleep is really helping a lot.

[broken USB]

does anyone here find the further away you get from cigs / beer / booze…. the more you forget why you stopped in the first place. everyones path is relative ofc, but i stopped before i got in too deep. sometimes i want a beer and a smoke. shit. lol

[Easy Slider]

does anyone here find the further away you get from cigs / beer / booze…. the more you forget why you stopped in the first place. everyones path is relative ofc, but i stopped before i got in too deep. sometimes i want a beer and a smoke. shit. lol

Yeah, that‘s why we have this thread. Keeping each other from slipping. Stay strong dude.

[swellbowed]

3 Days in on no tobacco/weed and it feels really good. Going to keep it goin'.

[FUBAR]

Staying busy is key. Go skate! Keep it up!

[ok boomer]

I have been mostly sober since the day I learned I was going to be a dad but I'd randomly drink here and there. After drinking this past 4th of July, I decided that I 100% don't need that in my life so I'm on a good 7 month roll. I use spite as my ally to be sober so I know I am done forevs on that hobby. Kudos to anyone keepin up the sober vibes. I was not sober like ever for ehh 14 years or something and as much as stuff gets stupid sometimes, sober is the way to deal with all shit in my opinion.

[Frank and Fred]

Bumping the thread to see how everyone is doing.

I had my last drink on Christmas day to start Dry January early... Still dry... not sure where I am going with his... Was aiming for Spring Break like last year but who knows... Main benefits so far are sleeping and dreaming... and of course saving some $s...

[Easy Slider]

Bumping the thread to see how everyone is doing.

I had my last drink on Christmas day to start Dry January early... Still dry... not sure where I am going with his... Was aiming for Spring Break like last year but who knows... Main benefits so far are sleeping and dreaming... and of course saving some $s...

It started like that for me, I stopped more or less out of nowhere and without a plan to stop forever and then I just kept going once I realised I could do it and that it was good for me. It‘s been 3.5 years now and I don‘t want to go back so I‘ll stay of the sauce, hopefully forever.

[krookedjuice]

does anyone here find the further away you get from cigs / beer / booze…. the more you forget why you stopped in the first place. everyones path is relative ofc, but i stopped before i got in too deep. sometimes i want a beer and a smoke. shit. lol

I quit smoking almost three years ago and i definitely find myself wanting one occasionally. i've slipped up and had 1 or 2 here and there and realize i don't even enjoy it anymore.

Question for everyone who's quit drinking, I don't drink daily, but when i do drink i tend to overdue it and end up wasting 2-3 days after because i feel like shit. how do you guys handle hanging out with people who do still drink? I feel like for me the ideal situation (like anyones i'm sure) would be to be able to just have a couple beers and stop, but that never works out.