Yeah. Trust me, this has been quite a learning experience. I feel like I should message just to clear the air, but at this point why extend the effort. She blocked my ig but left on fb oddly enough. The first two months were agonizing, but slowly I'm getting over it. I didn't get into the dating thing until my middle 20s so this shit is all new to me. For me I feel foreign women just have less of a bitch shield up. A lot of girls here grow up with princess syndrome. Not saying that it doesnt exist with girls of all cultures, but I think someone who grew up in a third world country with hardships is less spoiled and easier to just be open with.
Nah that last part makes sense, in general the less secluded people are the more they are aware of this world's realities; someone who takes the mere initiative of traveling somewhere and doesn't take the 'tourist' approach is bound to be less one-dimensional than someone who doesn't cultivate curiosity for anything outside their little selves at all.
I was late to dating too because I was in nothing but longtime relationships from my teenage years on till my mid-20's, so the idea of something more casual was new to me when it first popped up and in a way, I'm still learning how to care less and still cope. In my case I quickly realized I didn't care much for superficial relationships, at least where I live those would just be wastes of time and energy, hence why I won't be found on stuff like Tinder, I'm much more into meeting a person IRL and then choosing to initiate contact if I'm sensing good energy than investing my time into coin flips based on algorithms. But these days I'm over all the emotional chaos, so I just go wherever the wind takes me, meet people along the way without caring to label this or that action 'dating' and generally don't give a fuck.
Also the coincidences are getting a bit ridiculous but the next day after I posted those replies, 'my' ghost girl hit me up to chat, dodged me asking what's up and only went on to check what's up on some work project I'm on, then disappeared again. Like I was saying I've given up so it didn't really move me in anyway, but the anecdote only highlights how there is just no intelligible sense to the way a lot of people act, although to them their dimension feels valid, so emotionally it's better to remain detached from that noise, and maybe only then one can really appreciate it for what it is.