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[perverted super otaku!]

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I can't get past the feeling that a relationship is just, women getting men addicted to sex and controlling them by withholding it, validating the woman's sense of value and giving the man a surrogate mother figure  

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You are somewhat right. Don't put sex on a pedestal. It takes it's power away when you don't. That's why chicks lose their shit when you bang the juice out of them, then act disinterested.

I don't which is why a relationship seems completely ridiculous to me at this point, Im not desperate enough for a consistent source of sex to allow myself to be manipulated in exchange for it, like I can no longer play into the "u gotta make the first move" which sets a precedent for the girl controlling sex like a commodity and doling it out in exchange for various emotional and material benefits

[JB]

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I can't get past the feeling that a relationship is just, women getting men addicted to sex and controlling them by withholding it, validating the woman's sense of value and giving the man a surrogate mother figure  

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You are somewhat right. Don't put sex on a pedestal. It takes it's power away when you don't. That's why chicks lose their shit when you bang the juice out of them, then act disinterested.

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I don't which is why a relationship seems completely ridiculous to me at this point, Im not desperate enough for a consistent source of sex to allow myself to be manipulated in exchange for it, like I can no longer play into the "u gotta make the first move" which sets a precedent for the girl controlling sex like a commodity and doling it out in exchange for various emotional and material benefits

do relationships mean anything more than consistent sex to you? not asking in a dickhead way, just curious because ive never thought of it like that. i feel like most dudes in a relationship would say that theyre not in it just for sex, and id be one of those dudes. but it would be interesting to hear how people would respond if you asked them if theyre girlfriend/wife were to completely stop having sex with them for good, would they stay with that girl. i love my girlfriend, but i dont know if i could make a commitment to stay with her if we never had sex again.

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I can't get past the feeling that a relationship is just, women getting men addicted to sex and controlling them by withholding it, validating the woman's sense of value and giving the man a surrogate mother figure �

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You are somewhat right. Don't put sex on a pedestal. It takes it's power away when you don't. That's why chicks lose their shit when you bang the juice out of them, then act disinterested.

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I don't which is why a relationship seems completely ridiculous to me at this point, Im not desperate enough for a consistent source of sex to allow myself to be manipulated in exchange for it, like I can no longer play into the "u gotta make the first move" which sets a precedent for the girl controlling sex like a commodity and doling it out in exchange for various emotional and material benefits

Gotcha. Reading your comment, it just sounded like you were in that situation.

[perverted super otaku!]

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I can't get past the feeling that a relationship is just, women getting men addicted to sex and controlling them by withholding it, validating the woman's sense of value and giving the man a surrogate mother figure 

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You are somewhat right. Don't put sex on a pedestal. It takes it's power away when you don't. That's why chicks lose their shit when you bang the juice out of them, then act disinterested.

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I don't which is why a relationship seems completely ridiculous to me at this point, Im not desperate enough for a consistent source of sex to allow myself to be manipulated in exchange for it, like I can no longer play into the "u gotta make the first move" which sets a precedent for the girl controlling sex like a commodity and doling it out in exchange for various emotional and material benefits

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do relationships mean anything more than consistent sex to you? not asking in a dickhead way, just curious because ive never thought of it like that. i feel like most dudes in a relationship would say that theyre not in it just for sex, and id be one of those dudes. but it would be interesting to hear how people would respond if you asked them if theyre girlfriend/wife were to completely stop having sex with them for good, would they stay with that girl. i love my girlfriend, but i dont know if i could make a commitment to stay with her if we never had sex again.

It's all I can see in them now really, when I was younger I never thought about it and the "love" aspect just made the whole thing make sense but somewhere along the line I lost my ability to feel affection "love" companionship or whatever( except for one girl, who I dont want to be with, shes so off the rails and there is nothing more I can do to try to help her). It's just feels weird seeing everyone I know devote their lives to something that I can't even comprehend anymore.

edit: hope I dont sound like too much of depressed cunt in this lol, I'm not and my life is on a good path right now regardless of girl issues

[SodaJerk]

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I can't get past the feeling that a relationship is just, women getting men addicted to sex and controlling them by withholding it, validating the woman's sense of value and giving the man a surrogate mother figure 

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You are somewhat right. Don't put sex on a pedestal. It takes it's power away when you don't. That's why chicks lose their shit when you bang the juice out of them, then act disinterested.

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I don't which is why a relationship seems completely ridiculous to me at this point, Im not desperate enough for a consistent source of sex to allow myself to be manipulated in exchange for it, like I can no longer play into the "u gotta make the first move" which sets a precedent for the girl controlling sex like a commodity and doling it out in exchange for various emotional and material benefits

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do relationships mean anything more than consistent sex to you? not asking in a dickhead way, just curious because ive never thought of it like that. i feel like most dudes in a relationship would say that theyre not in it just for sex, and id be one of those dudes. but it would be interesting to hear how people would respond if you asked them if theyre girlfriend/wife were to completely stop having sex with them for good, would they stay with that girl. i love my girlfriend, but i dont know if i could make a commitment to stay with her if we never had sex again.

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It's all I can see in them now really, when I was younger I never thought about it and the "love" aspect just made the whole thing make sense but somewhere along the line I lost my ability to feel affection "love" companionship or whatever( except for one girl, who I dont want to be with, shes so off the rails and there is nothing more I can do to try to help her). It's just feels weird seeing everyone I know devote their lives to something that I can't even comprehend anymore.

edit: hope I dont sound like too much of depressed cunt in this lol, I'm not and my life is on a good path right now regardless of girl issues

I think we just got to the bottom if this one.

My wife and I are completely codependent but in a positive and supportive way not a dangerous and destructive manner. She provides me with just as much as I provide her with we just draw from different sources for this. She's a typical Scandinavian pessimist and I am an eternal optimist so I balance her out with this. I can get worked up and hot headed when she is a calming influence on me. I provide her with financial help and she reminds me not to overlook the little things that I might not prioritise enough. Sex is important but if it were cut off for any reason I'm sure she would allow me to satisfy my needs in an appropriate and discrete manner elsewhere.

[JB]

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I can't get past the feeling that a relationship is just, women getting men addicted to sex and controlling them by withholding it, validating the woman's sense of value and giving the man a surrogate mother figure 

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You are somewhat right. Don't put sex on a pedestal. It takes it's power away when you don't. That's why chicks lose their shit when you bang the juice out of them, then act disinterested.

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I don't which is why a relationship seems completely ridiculous to me at this point, Im not desperate enough for a consistent source of sex to allow myself to be manipulated in exchange for it, like I can no longer play into the "u gotta make the first move" which sets a precedent for the girl controlling sex like a commodity and doling it out in exchange for various emotional and material benefits

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do relationships mean anything more than consistent sex to you? not asking in a dickhead way, just curious because ive never thought of it like that. i feel like most dudes in a relationship would say that theyre not in it just for sex, and id be one of those dudes. but it would be interesting to hear how people would respond if you asked them if theyre girlfriend/wife were to completely stop having sex with them for good, would they stay with that girl. i love my girlfriend, but i dont know if i could make a commitment to stay with her if we never had sex again.

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It's all I can see in them now really, when I was younger I never thought about it and the "love" aspect just made the whole thing make sense but somewhere along the line I lost my ability to feel affection "love" companionship or whatever( except for one girl, who I dont want to be with, shes so off the rails and there is nothing more I can do to try to help her). It's just feels weird seeing everyone I know devote their lives to something that I can't even comprehend anymore.

edit: hope I dont sound like too much of depressed cunt in this lol, I'm not and my life is on a good path right now regardless of girl issues

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I think we just got to the bottom if this one.

My wife and I are completely codependent but in a positive and supportive way not a dangerous and destructive manner. She provides me with just as much as I provide her with we just draw from different sources for this. She's a typical Scandinavian pessimist and I am an eternal optimist so I balance her out with this. I can get worked up and hot headed when she is a calming influence on me. I provide her with financial help and she reminds me not to overlook the little things that I might not prioritise enough. Sex is important but if it were cut off for any reason I'm sure she would allow me to satisfy my needs in an appropriate and discrete manner elsewhere.

my girlfriend has only caught me satisfying my needs in an appropriate, discrete manner once, which is kind of a surprise that its only happened once because i do it all the time. she was cool with it though. didnt like that i was using her $10 lotion, but i told her id buy her some more.

[SodaJerk]

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I can't get past the feeling that a relationship is just, women getting men addicted to sex and controlling them by withholding it, validating the woman's sense of value and giving the man a surrogate mother figure 

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You are somewhat right. Don't put sex on a pedestal. It takes it's power away when you don't. That's why chicks lose their shit when you bang the juice out of them, then act disinterested.

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I don't which is why a relationship seems completely ridiculous to me at this point, Im not desperate enough for a consistent source of sex to allow myself to be manipulated in exchange for it, like I can no longer play into the "u gotta make the first move" which sets a precedent for the girl controlling sex like a commodity and doling it out in exchange for various emotional and material benefits

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do relationships mean anything more than consistent sex to you? not asking in a dickhead way, just curious because ive never thought of it like that. i feel like most dudes in a relationship would say that theyre not in it just for sex, and id be one of those dudes. but it would be interesting to hear how people would respond if you asked them if theyre girlfriend/wife were to completely stop having sex with them for good, would they stay with that girl. i love my girlfriend, but i dont know if i could make a commitment to stay with her if we never had sex again.

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It's all I can see in them now really, when I was younger I never thought about it and the "love" aspect just made the whole thing make sense but somewhere along the line I lost my ability to feel affection "love" companionship or whatever( except for one girl, who I dont want to be with, shes so off the rails and there is nothing more I can do to try to help her). It's just feels weird seeing everyone I know devote their lives to something that I can't even comprehend anymore.

edit: hope I dont sound like too much of depressed cunt in this lol, I'm not and my life is on a good path right now regardless of girl issues

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I think we just got to the bottom if this one.

My wife and I are completely codependent but in a positive and supportive way not a dangerous and destructive manner. She provides me with just as much as I provide her with we just draw from different sources for this. She's a typical Scandinavian pessimist and I am an eternal optimist so I balance her out with this. I can get worked up and hot headed when she is a calming influence on me. I provide her with financial help and she reminds me not to overlook the little things that I might not prioritise enough. Sex is important but if it were cut off for any reason I'm sure she would allow me to satisfy my needs in an appropriate and discrete manner elsewhere.

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my girlfriend has only caught me satisfying my needs in an appropriate, discrete manner once, which is kind of a surprise that its only happened once because i do it all the time. she was cool with it though. didnt like that i was using her $10 lotion, but i told her id buy her some more.

I wasn't talking about masterbation. My lady has told me that if her libido ceased or her vagina fell out or something she would be ok with me having sex with other women as long as I was discrete about it and didn't flaunt it.

[Bronson]

Having never had any relationship/sexual experience at an older age, I just kind of gave up. Ive always really feared rejection and that fear has most likely been the strongest determining aspect in my life. And whats the easiest way to deal with fear? You avoid it. But now Ive decided to try online dating. First couple of messages were intimidating, now I quite enjoy it sometimes.

Having messaged about 60 women in a couple of weeks, I am surprised about how many dates Ive managed to land. Funny thing is that its making me quite stressed out, particularly the thought of someone actually liking me and finding out about my complete inexperience.  Ive been reading various forums about how most women perceive inexperienced guys and it is making me pretty bummed out. But I hope that just a single positive experience could do a lot for my self esteem and make it easier to continue.

[Rusty_Berrings]

Having never had any relationship/sexual experience at an older age, I just kind of gave up. Ive always really feared rejection and whats the easiest way to deal with fear? You avoid it. But now Ive decided to try online dating. Having messaged about 60 women in a couple of weeks, I am surprised about how many dates Ive managed to land. Funny thing is that its making me quite stressed out, particularly the thought of someone actually liking me and finding out about my complete inexperience.  I?ve been reading various forums about how most women perceive inexperienced guys and it is making me pretty bummed out. But I hope that just a single positive experience could do a lot for my self esteem and make it easier to continue.

just have confidence but try not to be too much of a creep. it's hard for most of us to balance that scale.

[ill_Murray]

Having never had any relationship/sexual experience at an older age, I just kind of gave up. Ive always really feared rejection and whats the easiest way to deal with fear? You avoid it. But now Ive decided to try online dating. Having messaged about 60 women in a couple of weeks, I am surprised about how many dates Ive managed to land. Funny thing is that its making me quite stressed out, particularly the thought of someone actually liking me and finding out about my complete inexperience.� I?ve been reading various forums about how most women perceive inexperienced guys and it is making me pretty bummed out. But I hope that just a single positive experience could do a lot for my self esteem and make it easier to continue.

At least that movie Judd Apatow made about your life was pretty funny.  

[Thomas the Train]

It would take a life time on SLAP to explain what has plagued my mind all these years.

[L33Tg33k]

I might check myself back into psychiatric facility. I miss the juice.

[Jim and Dan]

Coming out of a 4 day bender . . .

I'm pretty sure it was the kind of stuff that has been killing people (i.e. fent laced) . . .

I needed to get that out of my system though, the whole thing was driving me nuts.

I've only used twice in the past 6 months though & would like to remain clean/sober/happy.

[shark tits]

Coming out of a 4 day bender . . .

I'm pretty sure it was the kind of stuff that has been killing people (i.e. fent laced) . . .

I needed to get that out of my system though, the whole thing was driving me nuts.

I've only used twice in the past 6 months though & would like to remain clean/sober/happy.

i fell out about a month ago, whenever last time rusty visited. i think i've copped twice since then. once just cause and the other time i had a raging toothache. it happens.

[Jim and Dan]

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Coming out of a 4 day bender . . .

I'm pretty sure it was the kind of stuff that has been killing people (i.e. fent laced) . . .

I needed to get that out of my system though, the whole thing was driving me nuts.

I've only used twice in the past 6 months though & would like to remain clean/sober/happy.

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i fell out about a month ago, whenever last time rusty visited. i think i've copped twice since then. once just cause and the other time i had a raging toothache. it happens.

It's been a long time in "the game" (almost 8 years), hence I don't really beat myself up if I make a mistake like when I was younger.

Those fent laced bags are fucking dangerous though mate . . .

[tobey]

since i have been on new meds everything has been great, still get panic attacks but i can handle them, i even take less of my panic attack pills. But since i have been feeling so great i started drinking again, i would only drink like 2-3 times a month than my birthday came along (may) and i have been drinking about 10 times a month because my aunt and uncle moved in with us and when ever they go out to the bar they bring home a six pack and say i can have a couple, last week i drank 3/4 nights in row. Now i have been having anxiety before i go to bed like how i did before last year and it hasnt happened at all this year in till about a couple weeks ago and that is my worst anxiety ever but it only lasted for about an hour and im thinking maybe the meds aren't in full effect because i have been drinking so much. I forgot to tell my doctor about it last week when i saw him, so anybody else on medication for anxiety and how often do you drink? I will probably never quit drinking but if i set a certain amount of times i can drink a month i can live by that and probably obey it.

[L33Tg33k]

I keep trying to reach out to people and be social and shit is not working out. Nobody's ever down or it just so happens that I miss every connection. I've been getting high and watching movies by myself at the cheap theaters all the time now. I pay four bucks to get in and I'll theater hop until I get tired of it and go home. I keep trying to convince myself that unhappiness is nothing, my far fetched desires are nothing, but I can only ever shake the feeling for minutes at a time or when I distract myself with a giant screen and weed. By the way, how fucking good was Edge of Tomorrow? If anyone has put off seeing that because you think it looks like a typical Tom Cruise vehicle, do yourself a favor and check it out. The most pleasant surprise of Summer so far for sure.

[silkyjohnson]

stay up dudes, currently in a similar situation ^^^

[eSHkidd]

I keep trying to reach out to people and be social and shit is not working out. Nobody's ever down or it just so happens that I miss every connection. I've been getting high and watching movies by myself at the cheap theaters all the time now. I pay four bucks to get in and I'll theater hop until I get tired of it and go home. I keep trying to convince myself that unhappiness is nothing, my far fetched desires are nothing, but I can only ever shake the feeling for minutes at a time or when I distract myself with a giant screen and weed. By the way, how fucking good was Edge of Tomorrow? If anyone has put off seeing that because you think it looks like a typical Tom Cruise vehicle, do yourself a favor and check it out. The most pleasant surprise of Summer so far for sure.

Edge of Tomorrow was fucking awesome. Great comedy for an action movie.

[ROCKxADIO420]

leet can you go see 22 jump street and tell me if its worth downloading

[L33Tg33k]

leet can you go see 22 jump street and tell me if its worth downloading

Definitely worth. It was a very self referential and self aware comedy that constantly made fun of itself and the audience. I actually had to explain that to my dumb "friends" before. They watched it and wrote it off as the same shit comically as the Hangover franchise without understanding that it was very aware of the shittiness of many comedy franchises. They called the movie stupid when they didn't even get what they were trying to do. I do suppose that the movie was meant to please both audiences though. It's just that those in the know would like it on another level. Rottentomatoes has it averaging at 88% last I saw. Because it's an aggregate site you know that isn't just some fluke. Best movie I've seen so far on my theater kick has been How To Train Your Dragon 2. If you haven't seen it, that's the one to see/download. Shit, you should even pay for it.

[Joust Ostrich]

I was sort of hoping Vuvuzela would make a comeback for World cup season.  Just a well timed post or two.  Maybe in a dylan. thread, or the AG coke thread.




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Am I right?

[ROCKxADIO420]

its just that i havent seen how to train your dragon 1 and i think it might be a little out of my intellectual league to go into the sequel without doing any research. like how will i know who is the dragon?

[L33Tg33k]

You're just going to have to trust in your deductive reasoning skills.

[ROCKxADIO420]

nah geek that was satire, jesus fucking christ.

[L33Tg33k]

No shit?

[ThugWaffle]

That sounds amazing L33t. At least you do stuff, even if its by yourself. I rarely exit the house, aside from going to the park.

[kingpinuser]

 Doing this for my own therapy, Was with a women for the last hmm 4 years, she has a son who was 1 when i met her and i raised him like my own now the rad little guy is 6. Anyway she told me one morning in February that she just needed me to leave...was invited back a few weeks later then asked again to have me just move out a week after that. Got a place and then went out to dinner one evening that turned into us hooking up and then since then till now it was 2 weeks hot 1 week cold or any pattern of me staying there doing family stuff then boom cut off again. The whole time she was hanging with a guy who is her brothers wife bother Lets call him "E"...who was/is married and is going through a divorce right now and going through some shit with his own emotions. I asked her over and over if anything is going on between them and to just let me know and i will walk away.

Monday night comes and she has been weird for about a week and has been hanging with another guy from her work...i ask her again just tell me whats up and if there is anything going on as i just need to know so i can break my stupid cycle of always being there for her and the kid, again its nothing is going on. Monday night texts were weird..nice but not her.. like saying just good night and i don't know hard to explain but  my gut was like nope i need to go and find out...i go to our old place..her place now and yeah shes banging the new guy she was hanging with. I was crushed... confronted her and yeah... just tears from her and what else could she say...man fucking crushing finding out that way.

I take off and get back to my place and collect my thought and do what i know I have to. This chick is great but she has a pattern of going down the wrong road and I broke that for years but her old ways are coming back but I also know that her and "E" had never hooked up, he's too much like me, a silly nice guy to do anything although i know they are both truly into each other but its so weird with divorce, family and a few other factors that they are hesitant. So i call her and make her pick up the phone after calling a few times..and i tell her i can not forgive her but she can't go back to her shitty ways of random hook ups to try and feel something and that she has to promise me that she tells "E" tomorrow about how she feels and they sort it out. I then call him in the morning and he is kinda scared at first..this dude is going through some shit I know but i tell him he has to tell her how he feels and to take care of her as i know he is a good man.

Fucking hell...i don't know why I still needed to protect her after all this shit..maybe its due to her son that I care for so much but man..since all that, i have been sad, angry, confused and anything in between. had a drank with a rad homie chick last night and she said fucking cut that shit...no more..you have done enough..more then enough and this weekend I'm taking off to hang with another chick about 4 hours away..just cruise down random roads and camp out.

 Its scary and weird not being there anymore with them and just looking after me..but that's reality and just facing that I'm going to have some ups and downs, but it's what I'm faced with.

[twitchflip]

Doing this for my own therapy, Was with a women for the last hmm 4 years, she has a son who was 1 when i met her and i raised him like my own now the rad little guy is 6. Anyway she told me one morning in February that she just needed me to leave...was invited back a few weeks later then asked again to have me just move out a week after that. Got a place and then went out to dinner one evening that turned into us hooking up and then since then till now it was 2 weeks hot 1 week cold or any pattern of me staying there doing family stuff then boom cut off again. The whole time she was hanging with a guy who is her brothers wife bother Lets call him "E"...who was/is married and is going through a divorce right now and going through some shit with his own emotions. I asked her over and over if anything is going on between them and to just let me know and i will walk away.

Monday night comes and she has been weird for about a week and has been hanging with another guy from her work...i ask her again just tell me whats up and if there is anything going on as i just need to know so i can break my stupid cycle of always being there for her and the kid, again its nothing is going on. Monday night texts were weird..nice but not her.. like saying just good night and i don't know hard to explain but  my gut was like nope i need to go and find out...i go to our old place..her place now and yeah shes banging the new guy she was hanging with. I was crushed... confronted her and yeah... just tears from her and what else could she say...man fucking crushing finding out that way.

I take off and get back to my place and collect my thought and do what i know I have to. This chick is great but she has a pattern of going down the wrong road and I broke that for years but her old ways are coming back but I also know that her and "E" had never hooked up, he's too much like me, a silly nice guy to do anything although i know they are both truly into each other but its so weird with devorce, family and a few other factors that they are hesitant. So i call her and make her pick up the phone after calling a few times..and i tell her i can not forgive her but she can't go back to her shitty ways of random hook ups to try and feel something and that she has to promise me that she tells "E" tomorrow about how she feels and they sort it out. I then call him in the morning and he is kinda scared at first..this dude is going through some shit I know but i tell him he has to tell her how he feels and to take care of her as i know he is a good man.

Fucking hell...i don't know why I still needed to protect her after all this shit..maybe its due to her son that I care for so much but man..since all that i have been sad, angry, confused and anything in between. Went a drank with a rad homie chick last night and she like fucking cut that shit...no more..you have done enough..more then enough and this weekend I'm taking off to hang with another chick about 4 hours away..just cruise down random roads and camp out.

 Its scary and weird not being there anymore with them and just looking after me..but that's reality and just facing that is going to have some ups and downs, but it's what I'm faced with.

you sound like a really nice guy. I'm with your chick friend and think it may be best to cut contact with her completely. the worst thing you could do is allow yourself to be taken advantage of emotionally. she will realise what she had when it's gone. best of luck, kingpin.