real confessions

[Dontfearthereefer]

for as much shit people give the dood, when he posts in this thread there isnt much to hate on, its sound advice he gives, but like guru said it is often easier to give advice than it is to run ones own life. cool it ice

@homie im 21 years old and wish i could still live at home, the idea is definitely cooler than the reality

[LOU.502]

Was gonna do productive stuff today but somehow ended up shirtless in bed drinking vodka and eating corn on the cob watching old skate videos I've eaten three corn cobs. I'm not joking.

[Cadillac Ranch Dressing]

Gnar'd

[skate_bored]

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thanks man, that's pretty much what i'm going for now. just trying to be happy for myself.

[close]

Great.  You're money and you don't even know it. 

Take a long break though.  It's good for you.  When you realize you don't need any of them, and you honestly don't want to deal with any of them or their bullshit (comes with the territory), you find one.

after my last relationship ended i was like this and it was the best. just completely uninterested in dealing with a girl. then i met my current girlfriend and she changed my mind, basically because there isnt any "dealing with" her. shes rad. good luck dude! there definitely a compatible and awesome lady out there for you.

[L33Tg33k]

Your living the charmed life as far as I'm concerned, October. You have a girlfriend. I've never so much as held a girl's hand. I don't have any real friends and I've been drifting away from my associates whom I've had for the past 5 or 6 years. Before that I didn't have any friends at all. That is to say that I was alone all throughout my school years. At least I know more people now than I did in high school, though.

[Hate_Then_Skate]

Your living the charmed life as far as I'm concerned, October. You have a girlfriend. I've never so much as held a girl's hand. I don't have any real friends and I've been drifting away from my associates whom I've had for the past 5 or 6 years. Before that I didn't have any friends at all. That is to say that I was alone all throughout my school years. At least I know more people now than I did in high school, though.

But you have all of us on SLAP.  Honest to goodness internet friends that will listen and converse with you and never ask to borrow money.  You're killing it, we all are.

[paraquat]

I have not had someone to skate with since '09. It's sucks but I have embraced it and have come to enjoy solo skating. I grew up with a crew of seven or so dudes that were down to skate at almost anytime/any weather. Now I have to conjure my own motivation to have a dead of winter flatbar session. It's all good though. C'est la vie.

[Will Easley]

I have not had someone to skate with since '09. It's sucks but I have embraced it and have come to enjoy solo skating. I grew up with a crew of seven or so dudes that were down to skate at almost anytime/any weather. Now I have to conjure my own motivation to have a dead of winter flatbar session. It's all good though. C'est la vie.

shit do you have any parks around you? thats always been the easiest way for me to find & make new skateboarding friends. i dont mind solo skating when im working on tricks but when im about to do something heavy at a street spot i always gotta have at least one friend with me. i tend to feed off the groups energy. shit i couldnt even imagine skating without friends for years.

[69]

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I have not had someone to skate with since '09. It's sucks but I have embraced it and have come to enjoy solo skating. I grew up with a crew of seven or so dudes that were down to skate at almost anytime/any weather. Now I have to conjure my own motivation to have a dead of winter flatbar session. It's all good though. C'est la vie.

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Has been my exact problem too. Pretty much no one to skate with since 2008. Every now and then my little brother will skate, but he's so retardedly into road biking its ridiculous. Sucks, because the dude is a natural on a board.

I skate a flatbar and box by myself 3-4 days a week. I go to a few spots, but dont stay long, because its not the same when you skate by yourself. Same with going to the skate park.

I have come to kinda embrace it, but it was so much more fun skating with all my friends back in the day. Use to have a good crew, but everyone pretty much quit or moved.

Mmmm interesting situations here, very interesting.

I would recommend socialising and fine tuning all those awkward mannerism you most defiently suffer from.

Maybe try taking an prescription anti aniexty pill.... probably Efexor-XR

These aren't too hard to get, just go to your doctor and tell him your sap story (crying would be a bonus)



THERE! Your problems are solved,

regards, sisxty nine

[paraquat]

There are parks in my area, but most are filled with 14-16 year olds. I will socialize with them (talk about tricks, etc), but no outside the park sessions. Not a lot of people skate past 18-20 in my area, and I am 29.

If I lived in a bigger city, I would probably not have this "problem".

Its all good though. I just skate for fun/learn some new tricks/be outside/not look cool/release some endorphins when I land something.

[69]

Yea, its more of the age group of skaters here.

Like I said before, ever since getting out of the military though, I have noticed that I am slightly awkward socially. And I definitely wasnt before. Just seems like I have a hard time connecting with people, and I can often be negative for no reason, which I'm sure drives people away. I saw an old friend in Walmart the other day that I havent seen in 8 years, and I just walked right by him. Stupid shit like that.

I'm just dumb.

Do you think you hate yourself (serious question)

[nino brown]

I'm 20 years old and still living at home. I know this is an increasingly normal thing in America but it's literally driving me fucking crazy. Haven't been able to find a job for two years post high-school, didn't finish high-school to begin with, don't have a G.E.D., haven't gone to college among other things. My failure to do these things doesn't have anything to do with smarts (god knows how many times people have said i'm "bright and have potential") but more so with being a non-linear thinker who really can't focus on anything in the real world what-so-ever. Excuses? sure... but it's my reality. Being raised by two artist/hippie parents who didn't show much focus on me being a better student maybe added in to being a "head in the clouds" kind of guy.. who knows. Just coming to terms with being a lost cause here

i feel you bruh, im going threw the same shit. finding a decent paying job is damn near impossible. dont let it get you down dog just try to make some moves.

[Filip]

Ive been without a job in the past for almost two years straight, it sucks. Luckily, Ive been working a decent paying job for the last 4 months now, and its seriously the best. Not just for the money, but I feel like im finally doing something in my life. Best of luck and gnars for both of you.

[Laban Fetus]

Ive been without a job in the past for almost two years straight, it sucks. Luckily, Ive been working a decent paying job for the last 4 months now, and its seriously the best. Not just for the money, but I feel like im finally doing something in my life. Best of luck and gnars for both of you.

Thanks. I'm actually trying way harder to get one now which just mean a lot of Craigslist browsing and an open mind. I'll never get anywhere just moping and waiting for something to fall into my hands.  Psyched for all of your future endeavors

[jack burton]

This has been one of the most stressful years of my life. I can deal with most of the stress but my girlfriends mental health has been pretty heavy lately. I could go into detail but ill spare everyone since I'm drunk.

[Beeda Weeda]

stay up brother, life is a lesson.

[Dirtymac]

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I have not had someone to skate with since '09. It's sucks but I have embraced it and have come to enjoy solo skating. I grew up with a crew of seven or so dudes that were down to skate at almost anytime/any weather. Now I have to conjure my own motivation to have a dead of winter flatbar session. It's all good though. C'est la vie.

[close]

Has been my exact problem too. Pretty much no one to skate with since 2008. Every now and then my little brother will skate, but he's so retardedly into road biking its ridiculous. Sucks, because the dude is a natural on a board.

I skate a flatbar and box by myself 3-4 days a week. I go to a few spots, but dont stay long, because its not the same when you skate by yourself. Same with going to the skate park.

I have come to kinda embrace it, but it was so much more fun skating with all my friends back in the day. Use to have a good crew, but everyone pretty much quit or moved.

Build a ramp/spot. You'll have more friends than you want...

[jack burton]

stay up brother, life is a lesson.

But seriously thanks.

[Frank]

yo jack burton, been through a similar thing a few years back. i don't know if i can provide any helpful advice, but feel free to pm me or something.

stay up

[Nick..]

I have zero self confidence and I always fuck everything up no matter what it is and it is relevant to my self confidence as I have no hope in myself or that I can do right. Doesn't help that I'm compared to my sister all the time so I look like the disappointment to my parents.


Also, just recently found out my grades were absolutely terrible and its a reminder that I fucked up again like I always do, it seems like things just can't go right no matter how hard I try.

[69]

I have zero self confidence and I always fuck everything up no matter what it is and it is relevant to my self confidence as I have no hope in myself or that I can do right. Doesn't help that I'm compared to my sister all the time so I look like the disappointment to my parents.


Also, just recently found out my grades were absolutely terrible and its a reminder that I fucked up again like I always do, it seems like things just can't go right no matter how hard I try.

you're still a kid! don't worry about it, life gets simpiler and easier as you grow!

[paraquat]

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I have zero self confidence and I always fuck everything up no matter what it is and it is relevant to my self confidence as I have no hope in myself or that I can do right. Doesn't help that I'm compared to my sister all the time so I look like the disappointment to my parents.


Also, just recently found out my grades were absolutely terrible and its a reminder that I fucked up again like I always do, it seems like things just can't go right no matter how hard I try.

[close]

you're still a kid! don't worry about it, life gets simpiler and easier as you grow!

Life most certainly does not get easier. You just gain more intelligence through experience. Stay up bro. Just TRY HARDER!!! You got this.

[69]

oh yeah thats what i meant lol, but i mean once you become comfortable with yourself nothing seems THAT important or overwhelming

Be happy to be who you are! learn to love the vessel you've been given to travel through life!

[jack burton]

yo jack burton, been through a similar thing a few years back. i don't know if i can provide any helpful advice, but feel free to pm me or something.

stay up

Reasons like this are why I love slap. Ill keep this in mind if I ever need to chat.

[Rumpleforeskin]

I like No Doubt.

[Morty Seinfeld]

yo jack burton, been through a similar thing a few years back. i don't know if i can provide any helpful advice, but feel free to pm me or something.

stay up

going through something similar as well. feel free to send a pm any time.

[IanBZHD]

Broke up with my ex a year ago, we dated for 4 years. She got a boyfriend soon after, but they just broke up. She kept me hanging on the whole time they dated but now that theyre broken up she doesnt want anything to do with me after telling me she still loved me for the last year.
It has really fucked me up with trying to commit to other girls, and i just never feel that strongly about any new girls i meet. She treats me like absolute shit now, so i know i should just cut her out of my life, but there is always that glimpse of hope in the back of my head.

So what do slap pals have for advice? Its just one girl i know, how do i move on with my life and quit letting this bitch get to me for the rest of my life?

[finknoos]

Broke up with my ex a year ago, we dated for 4 years. She got a boyfriend soon after, but they just broke up. She kept me hanging on the whole time they dated but now that theyre broken up she doesnt want anything to do with me after telling me she still loved me for the last year.
It has really fucked me up with trying to commit to other girls, and i just never feel that strongly about any new girls i meet. She treats me like absolute shit now, so i know i should just cut her out of my life, but there is always that glimpse of hope in the back of my head.

So what do slap pals have for advice? Its just one girl i know, how do i move on with my life and quit letting this bitch get to me for the rest of my life?

Be done with her.

Bitches play games man, and us men, well were usually not on the same wavelength as to understand their games. This makes it hard to compete, and even harder to win, fuck even a draw would do.
She didnt love you for the last year, or she wouldnt be with this other guy. Either she still had some feelings for you that were being confused with love, or she was keeping you as a backup. Either way the best way to get on with your life is to do just that. Make it so that you have no ties, delete her on facebook and all other social sites, get a new phone number etc. Once youve ploughed a few bar-bitches youll forget all about her. Then you can focus on finding a girl whos worth keeping.

[IanBZHD]

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Broke up with my ex a year ago, we dated for 4 years. She got a boyfriend soon after, but they just broke up. She kept me hanging on the whole time they dated but now that theyre broken up she doesnt want anything to do with me after telling me she still loved me for the last year.
It has really fucked me up with trying to commit to other girls, and i just never feel that strongly about any new girls i meet. She treats me like absolute shit now, so i know i should just cut her out of my life, but there is always that glimpse of hope in the back of my head.

So what do slap pals have for advice? Its just one girl i know, how do i move on with my life and quit letting this bitch get to me for the rest of my life?

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Be done with her.

Bitches play games man, and us men, well were usually not on the same wavelength as to understand their games. This makes it hard to compete, and even harder to win, fuck even a draw would do.
She didnt love you for the last year, or she wouldnt be with this other guy. Either she still had some feelings for you that were being confused with love, or she was keeping you as a backup. Either way the best way to get on with your life is to do just that. Make it so that you have no ties, delete her on facebook and all other social sites, get a new phone number etc. Once youve ploughed a few bar-bitches youll forget all about her. Then you can focus on finding a girl whos worth keeping.

Thanks Fink, i appreciate the advice. I deleted everything already, but just deleted the number from my phone. Im 21 so I've tried doing the bar-bitches thing and had some fun, but it only got my mind off it for a little while. But now that everything is deleted im just going to stop all contact. That's the only way i suppose. It might take some time but im sure ill be normal again soon, just gotta be a man and deal with life.

[yukaton]

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Broke up with my ex a year ago, we dated for 4 years. She got a boyfriend soon after, but they just broke up. She kept me hanging on the whole time they dated but now that theyre broken up she doesnt want anything to do with me after telling me she still loved me for the last year.
It has really fucked me up with trying to commit to other girls, and i just never feel that strongly about any new girls i meet. She treats me like absolute shit now, so i know i should just cut her out of my life, but there is always that glimpse of hope in the back of my head.

So what do slap pals have for advice? Its just one girl i know, how do i move on with my life and quit letting this bitch get to me for the rest of my life?

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Be done with her.

Bitches play games man, and us men, well were usually not on the same wavelength as to understand their games. This makes it hard to compete, and even harder to win, fuck even a draw would do.
She didnt love you for the last year, or she wouldnt be with this other guy. Either she still had some feelings for you that were being confused with love, or she was keeping you as a backup. Either way the best way to get on with your life is to do just that. Make it so that you have no ties, delete her on facebook and all other social sites, get a new phone number etc. Once youve ploughed a few bar-bitches youll forget all about her. Then you can focus on finding a girl whos worth keeping.

[close]

Thanks Fink, i appreciate the advice. I deleted everything already, but just deleted the number from my phone. Im 21 so I've tried doing the bar-bitches thing and had some fun, but it only got my mind off it for a little while. But now that everything is deleted im just going to stop all contact. That's the only way i suppose. It might take some time but im sure ill be normal again soon, just gotta be a man and deal with life.

Just start killing it at life and you will be happy, take that class you wanted to, start going to the gym, getting healthy soon enough you will feel better than ever and bitches they come and go dont stress about that