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[pinche gringo]

Keep going to goth night.

[SodaJerk]

Keep going to goth night.

[L33Tg33k]

I don't even want that though.

[dillanharp]

Did you have fun at goth night?

[L33Tg33k]

Uhh, fun is relative. I guess I tolerated it better than being anywhere else. I can confidently say that I was more comfortable there than in any other club/bar scene thing that I've ever been to. That doesn't mean I felt comfortable approaching girls. I was able to talk to guys about their outrageous clothes though. There's a lot less nerves when you're talking to dudes because there are no expectations and I don't want anything out of them.

[@thewilleasley]

Uhh, fun is relative. I guess I tolerated it better than being anywhere else. I can confidently say that I was more comfortable there than in any other club/bar scene thing that I've ever been to. That doesn't mean I felt comfortable approaching girls. I was able to talk to guys about their outrageous clothes though. There's a lot less nerves when you're talking to dudes because there are no expectations and I don't want anything out of them.

thats all you gotta do man, have that same mindset. think of how you approach and talk to these people in costume or whatever. you see them, finding something interesting about them, then walk up to them & make a comment right? no expectations, just amusing yourself with conversation? thats all you gotta do with girls man. Don't over-think it like you have to pull off everything 100% perfect, just try to entertain yourself and dont have some huge expectations for every interaction with a girl. its like skateboarding man, you gotta expect to fall down a few times, and learn through trial & error how to do the things you want to do, but its all worth it once you finally start to progress & get better. besides rejection honestly doesnt even hurt in those types of situations because these are all strangers, and you're the same to them as well.  personally i find i get more nervous around girls once we really start to get to know each other & i get infatuated but thats a whole other story lol. if i had to make a skateboarding analogy, your situation is similar to a kid with young legs who wants to learn how to skate stairs & has the ollie for it but just keeps hesitating on the run-up or kicking out mid air. just gotta keep going at it til you finally commit & stick the landing. you may not ride away the first time but after that you know you can do it.

but good for you for at least making an effort to get out there & do something! the more you do it the easier it gets

[pinche gringo]

If you enjoy going to goth night and it is a place that you can comfortably interact with others you should go when ever you feel up to it. It sounds like it would dramatically increase your chances of meeting new people with common interests. Good luck.

[Rusty_Berrings]

When I was 14 I destroyed thousands of dollars worth of shopping carts in a trash compactor behind a grocery store.

When I lost my virginity I used a banana scented condom and the chick was having her period.

[JB]

When I lost my virginity I used a banana scented condom and the chick was having her period.

thats gnarly rusty.


has there ever been a "Losing your virginity" thread? I could see it being a hit.

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When I lost my virginity I used a banana scented condom and the chick was having her period.

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thats gnarly rusty.


has there ever been a "Losing your virginity" thread? I could see it being a hit.

I was listening to liquid swords raw dogging with and ice cube in her cervix.

[ill_Murray]

When I was 14 I destroyed thousands of dollars worth of shopping carts in a trash compactor behind a grocery store.

When I lost my virginity I used a banana scented condom and the chick was having her period.

I just found this super rare security photo of Rusty in the act...

[Joust Ostrich]

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When I lost my virginity I used a banana scented condom and the chick was having her period.

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thats gnarly rusty.


has there ever been a "Losing your virginity" thread? I could see it being a hit.

Losing your virginity thread
http://www.slapmagazine.com/component/option,com_jfusion/Itemid,4/index.php?topic=38947.0

How old were you when you lost your virginity?
http://www.slapmagazine.com/component/option,com_jfusion/Itemid,4/index.php?topic=45725.0

[ill_Murray]

Uhh, fun is relative. I guess I tolerated it better than being anywhere else. I can confidently say that I was more comfortable there than in any other club/bar scene thing that I've ever been to. That doesn't mean I felt comfortable approaching girls. I was able to talk to guys about their outrageous clothes though. There's a lot less nerves when you're talking to dudes because there are no expectations and I don't want anything out of them.

I have to say L33t, I'm awfully curious about how you ended up at goth night and the second, good for you for expanding your horizons.  Step in the right direction.

[L33Tg33k]

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Uhh, fun is relative. I guess I tolerated it better than being anywhere else. I can confidently say that I was more comfortable there than in any other club/bar scene thing that I've ever been to. That doesn't mean I felt comfortable approaching girls. I was able to talk to guys about their outrageous clothes though. There's a lot less nerves when you're talking to dudes because there are no expectations and I don't want anything out of them.

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I have to say L33t, I'm awfully curious about how you ended up at goth night and the second, good for you for expanding your horizons.  Step in the right direction.

Like someone said in that dumb murderer thread, I'm alternative as fuck. For real though, goth music has always been close to my heart along with other genres. The music is at times introspective and melodic and other times driving and visceral. Maybe the only music that speaks to me more is dream pop/shoegaze. I just searched the net for goth spots in San Diego. What's funny is that I was supposed to meet up with some guys at a different place called Booty Bassment, but I hate that scene and everyone in it so when I saw the line to get inside I immediately left that shit hole for the goth place. Sabbat is the name of it. It's also cool that their cover is half the price of BB's. I had the one friend that was down because we're more or less both introverts and listen to the same music. The difference between me and him is that he's generally happy and doesn't have social anxiety. Now that I look back at it I can honestly say that I had a good time when I was talking to my friend. I hadn't seen him in a long time and I guess there's something about me that draws out abstract conversation from people. I imagine that can be taxing to most people, but it's good when someone is on the same page even for a little while. I had a hard time dancing but I got out there for few minutes. That's when the homie disappeared to let his dick sneeze.

[@thewilleasley]

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Uhh, fun is relative. I guess I tolerated it better than being anywhere else. I can confidently say that I was more comfortable there than in any other club/bar scene thing that I've ever been to. That doesn't mean I felt comfortable approaching girls. I was able to talk to guys about their outrageous clothes though. There's a lot less nerves when you're talking to dudes because there are no expectations and I don't want anything out of them.

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I have to say L33t, I'm awfully curious about how you ended up at goth night and the second, good for you for expanding your horizons.  Step in the right direction.

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Like someone said in that dumb murderer thread, I'm alternative as fuck. For real though, goth music has always been close to my heart along with other genres. The music is at times introspective and melodic and other times driving and visceral. Maybe the only music that speaks to me more is dream pop/shoegaze. I just searched the net for goth spots in San Diego. What's funny is that I was supposed to meet up with some guys at a different place called Booty Bassment, but I hate that scene and everyone in it so when I saw the line to get inside I immediately left that shit hole for the goth place. Sabbat is the name of it. It's also cool that their cover is half the price of BB's. I had the one friend that was down because we're more or less both introverts and listen to the same music. The difference between me and him is that he's generally happy and doesn't have social anxiety. Now that I look back at it I can honestly say that I had a good time when I was talking to my friend. I hadn't seen him in a long time and I guess there's something about me that draws out abstract conversation from people. I imagine that can be taxing to most people, but it's good when someone is on the same page even for a little while. I had a hard time dancing but I got out there for few minutes. That's when the homie disappeared to let his dick sneeze.

fuck yeah man good for you! See you already on the right track just keep it up!

[KING TUT]

do you drink leetgeek? I'm not saying get wasted but a few beers helps me talk to people, especially women.

[arthurspooner]

I have been talking to this really cute girl on Facebook, and I have her number. We have chatted on FB and texted a little bit (I am not a fan of either). I really want to ask her out to get some food, but I am terrified. I haven't even really spoken to a girl that I was into since I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, a year ago...

[KING TUT]

also leet do you smoke a lot of weed?? if so , cut that shit off for sure.

[paraquat]

I have been talking to this really cute girl on Facebook, and I have her number. We have chatted on FB and texted a little bit (I am not a fan of either). I really want to ask her out to get some food, but I am terrified. I haven't even really spoken to a girl that I was into since I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, a year ago...

If she gave you her number and is overall chatty with you, then I will assume she will get moist if you went out on a limb and asked her to hang out.

[arthurspooner]

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I have been talking to this really cute girl on Facebook, and I have her number. We have chatted on FB and texted a little bit (I am not a fan of either). I really want to ask her out to get some food, but I am terrified. I haven't even really spoken to a girl that I was into since I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, a year ago...

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If she gave you her number and is overall chatty with you, then I will assume she will get moist if you went out on a limb and asked her to hang out.

Yeah, hopefully haha. I mean the plus side is that if she declines, then it isn't that big of a deal since I have never even met her in real life.

[pinche gringo]

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I have been talking to this really cute girl on Facebook, and I have her number. We have chatted on FB and texted a little bit (I am not a fan of either). I really want to ask her out to get some food, but I am terrified. I haven't even really spoken to a girl that I was into since I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, a year ago...

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If she gave you her number and is overall chatty with you, then I will assume she will get moist if you went out on a limb and asked her to hang out.

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Yeah, hopefully haha. I mean the plus side is that if she declines, then it isn't that big of a deal since I have never even met her in real life.

Get yours.

[Useful Idiot]

I always had fun at goth night. Dancing around like an idiot. Those goth chick's shields are hard to penetrate though.

[@thewilleasley]

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I have been talking to this really cute girl on Facebook, and I have her number. We have chatted on FB and texted a little bit (I am not a fan of either). I really want to ask her out to get some food, but I am terrified. I haven't even really spoken to a girl that I was into since I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, a year ago...

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If she gave you her number and is overall chatty with you, then I will assume she will get moist if you went out on a limb and asked her to hang out.

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Yeah, hopefully haha. I mean the plus side is that if she declines, then it isn't that big of a deal since I have never even met her in real life.

yeah forreal dude just go for it. In situations like this where theres really no risk i just try to have fun & not over think it. Being rejected by someone you dont even know is (at the very worst) only mildly disappointing while the opposite is always gonna make you feel great, so you might as well just say fuck it. if you wanna ask her out for some food you better do it before someone else does! im sure youre not the only one that likes her. aint nothing worse than never getting at that chick you always wanted only to see her get a man once you finally scrape up the courage to make your move. i would rather get flat-out dissed & dismissed by her right off the bat than to experience that shit. ive had that happen to me before & was super salty for almost a full week after the fact lol

[arthurspooner]

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I have been talking to this really cute girl on Facebook, and I have her number. We have chatted on FB and texted a little bit (I am not a fan of either). I really want to ask her out to get some food, but I am terrified. I haven't even really spoken to a girl that I was into since I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, a year ago...

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If she gave you her number and is overall chatty with you, then I will assume she will get moist if you went out on a limb and asked her to hang out.

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Yeah, hopefully haha. I mean the plus side is that if she declines, then it isn't that big of a deal since I have never even met her in real life.

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yeah forreal dude just go for it. In situations like this where theres really no risk i just try to have fun & not over think it. Being rejected by someone you dont even know is (at the very worst) only mildly disappointing while the opposite is always gonna make you feel great, so you might as well just say fuck it. if you wanna ask her out for some food you better do it before someone else does! im sure youre not the only one that likes her. aint nothing worse than never getting at that chick you always wanted only to see her get a man once you finally scrape up the courage to make your move. i would rather get flat-out dissed & dismissed by her right off the bat than to experience that shit. ive had that happen to me before & was super salty for almost a full week after the fact lol

Thanks man! I'm all psyched up now haha. I'm gonna do it.

[Jim and Dan]

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I have been talking to this really cute girl on Facebook, and I have her number. We have chatted on FB and texted a little bit (I am not a fan of either). I really want to ask her out to get some food, but I am terrified. I haven't even really spoken to a girl that I was into since I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, a year ago...

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If she gave you her number and is overall chatty with you, then I will assume she will get moist if you went out on a limb and asked her to hang out.

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Yeah, hopefully haha. I mean the plus side is that if she declines, then it isn't that big of a deal since I have never even met her in real life.

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yeah forreal dude just go for it. In situations like this where theres really no risk i just try to have fun & not over think it. Being rejected by someone you dont even know is (at the very worst) only mildly disappointing while the opposite is always gonna make you feel great, so you might as well just say fuck it. if you wanna ask her out for some food you better do it before someone else does! im sure youre not the only one that likes her. aint nothing worse than never getting at that chick you always wanted only to see her get a man once you finally scrape up the courage to make your move. i would rather get flat-out dissed & dismissed by her right off the bat than to experience that shit. ive had that happen to me before & was super salty for almost a full week after the fact lol

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Thanks man! I'm all psyched up now haha. I'm gonna do it.

I highly suggest you do it Arthur.

I too, haven't even fancied the idea of courting the fairer sex since my last long-term relationship ended a year ago (whom I'm still deeply in love with).

Ironically, the previous long-term relationship I was in before this one yielded similar results; a year of feeling nothing then attempting to get back in "the game".

Women really do want you to make "the moves", as regular as that sounds; Trust me, I'm not one who generally feels comfortable doing such things, as my mentality over the status of courting is highly akin to that of say L33tG33k.

I'm still surprised to this day some of the girls I pulled after being stupidly in-love; sometimes it can take very little effort and other times a little more.

However, it is usually always worth it in the end.

Like Will said, you may end up regretting not doing something & becoming salty/bitter over the situation.

Just like the soap opera, we only have One Life to Live . . .

[Tay]

L33tgeek never hits me up on Skype, or checks his slap messages. That's my real confession.

[Tay]

Uhh, fun is relative. I guess I tolerated it better than being anywhere else. I can confidently say that I was more comfortable there than in any other club/bar scene thing that I've ever been to. That doesn't mean I felt comfortable approaching girls. I was able to talk to guys about their outrageous clothes though. There's a lot less nerves when you're talking to dudes because there are no expectations and I don't want anything out of them.

Imagine the girl you fancy taking the biggest nastiest shit, imagine her on her rag with clots of blood smeared everywhere, imagine her uterus shedding. We're human L33t, we get suicidal and depressed.

Just talk to girls like you'd talk to guys; bullshit. If it turns out you have similar interests, build off that. And if not move on. I feel embarrassed when talking to hot guys, it's common. But we can get over it 

[Bronson]

L33t, not sure if this has been asked before, but have you ever tried online-dating? I am just getting into it myself and approaching females is a lot less stressful than in face-to-face settings, especially if you try not to take it too seriously. Also, you are really good with expressing yourself in writing so that may help.

[ill_Murray]

L33tgeek never hits me up on Slap about hookers, or checks his slap messages. That's my real confession.

[L33Tg33k]

I'm sorry for not checking my messages, Tay. I'm not avoiding you. Actually, I guess I kind of am avoiding you. I just don't know what to say, I get anxious and I feel stupid. The same to anyone else that has tried to reach out to me. I'm very grateful though. I have a hard time replying to anything personal on this site. I have severe mood swings sometimes and it's hard to get through some posts without losing interest because I lose purpose or am just feeling generally shitty. This is like my fifth time typing this comment.

Recently I've gotten a lot of self affirming comments from some people in my life and it makes me feel guilty as much as it makes me feel like maybe I don't suck that bad. I can say right now that I'm tired of being miserable. Recently I've been able to spy some glimpses of hope that I may be able to end it without ending it, but the positive thoughts are so goddamn fleeting. Then I crash right back down to where I was before. I'm so fucking tired.

I've already done (not done) so much shit I regret. One of the things that ways me down is the fact that my brain constantly plays replays of my shortcomings and failures. I can't get away from them and I'm sorely in need of something that I can be proud of to try to focus my attention on. The source of my failures run the gamut but since talking about relationships is popular here, I'll use one as an example. I may have told you about this one before but I'll say it again. About a year and a half ago I was going to this support group and there was a girl in there. She smart, she was interesting, she was beautiful, and I was infatuated. I didn't know what to do with those feelings as that is not something that I ever felt or imagined that I would ever feel. We talked to each other and shared intimate details of our lives because that was the nature of the group, but I never "made a move". I thought about....constantly. I was too much of a pussy to do anything about it though. Now she's gone and I don't even know her last name. The more I think about her, the more I think she was into me too, and the more angry I get at myself. Not fun. I don't want to feel that way again.

I've made profiles on a couple dating sites before. Don't really know what to do after that. I messaged some people, but I've never gotten a response. Dating sites are notoriously brutal on the poor and minorities. Not saying that's why, just saying it could be a factor.