another hard day at the office, this is going to sound gnarly, but you should cut all ties with her. dont talk to her. dont look at photos of her. odds are you wont be able to stop thinking about her, but try not to indulge in the intense feelings you have for her. its only gonna make you feel worse.
im going through similar motions at the moment. its real hard man, i feel for you.
Yeah, it sounds a bit harsh, but I know what you're trying to get at. I guess looking at photos of her and feeling sad is just part of the process of letting go of her, right? I mean, I can't just ignore that I still got feelings for her.
So what I'm gonna do is this: I will tell her that I'll stop talking to her on Skype. The odd heads-up here and there per e-mail is ok but nothing else. After all, it was her who broke up with me. The whole friends-thing might work when we're back home, but as for now, she made the decision to drop me and she'll have to go all the way. I'm not gonna pretend to myself like we're still a couple. I already hit up a couple of friends from back home and I'll talk to them this weekend about it. I guess lots of talking will do the job as much as going through all the painful emotions that come with breaking up. There's no need to indulge myself in them, but at the same time I can't just plead ignorance. I don't know if that makes sense, but whatevs.
Although it's not even 24 hours after our break-up, I can already feel a certain degree of freedom. I don't have to worry about flying down to Colombia to see her over christmas (and spend a fortune on it) anymore and I'm free to end up for my next job wherever I want to. There's no need to stay in proximity to her anymore. I also haven't ever felt as comfortable in California since I got here. Before that I felt like I sacrificed her for that job here (which was of course bullshit). Now I feel this fresh urge to settle in here and meet new people. As much as it came as a shock, it was also a small relief. I guess that makes it less painful, too.