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So I've been talking to this girl for a good while now, gone on a few dates and whatnot.
Last date we had was Valentine's Day, and it went pretty well I think. We haven't kissed or anything, nor have done the whole "arm around her" thing that most guys love to do, I feel like this girl would just get scared of that and back off.
So that date, I found out she's never had a boyfriend (she's going to be 21 on Monday). She has said she's never felt the need to have a boyfriend as she has always been busy with school and jobs and all that. Now ever since she told me that, that scared me off. Now I know she has a really high wall and I really wanna find a way to bring it down.
I'm genuinely interested in this girl but I don't even know if she likes me or not. I'm afraid to ask and have it backfire on me.
I just wish that she lets down her wall and sees what I'm doing, that I'm gong out of my way to take her on dates and all these things; that I'm putting myself out there (my true self) and I'm really hoping she sees that I'm really interested in her. Idk if I should give up or not because her wall is so damn high but I really dont want to, as I find something special about her and I want to keep trying and hopefully succeed.
Any tips, PALs? I've never dealt with this before.
I'm really bad at reading girls. Real terrible.
tell her you understand that she's never felt the need to have boyfriends in the past and that you like that about her. let her know you enjoyed the dates you've been on and that you would like to hang out more if shes interested. the ball is in her court from there and she'll let you what she's thinking and go from there
Do you feel like the fact that you have been on a few dates suggests that she is interested in you? Did it feel like she was letting on that she might be ready for a boyfriend when she mentioned that she has never had one?
I think the fact that she accepted a date with you on Valentines Day says something about her intentions and feelings. If I were in your position I would ask her out again and if she said yes tell her how you feel on the date.

Girls that don't "date", in my experience, treat one ultra-deluxe proper upon copulating.
This. Just go for it dude. Kiss her, she's waiting for it. From my experiences, girls don't take charge, they want you to. Let her know you like her, if she says she likes you back, just go for a kiss. If you've been out a bunch of time and she went out with you on valentines day and she denies you now, she's not going to change her mind after a few more dates. You don't have to ask her to be your girlfriend, but put it out there that you want to be more than just friends. If it doesn't go as planned, move on. The longer you wait, the more bummed you're going to be if it doesn't work out.