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Related to 3D's experience, I recently got accused of not being me. It was super awkward.
I had hung out with this lady twice and even spent the night at her place, but on date three (I had been a bit aloof between dates two and three) she was like, "Who are you really? What is the scam here? Are you catfishing me?"
My response was, "What could I possibly be after?" And "If I was going to make up a persona to scam women why wouldn't I make up something better than who I actually am?"
Prior to date three, she looked up my work profile, my LinkedIn, and other sites that mention me. She wanted to see my gov ID to prove I was me.
It's been a wild couple of weeks (I'm emotionally exhausted) and I'm not sure if I should be ashamed or proud that she thought I wasn't me.
It sounds more like she doesn't know what catfishing actually is and is being really paranoid
I haven't used tinder in years because I guess I'm too ugly or some shit, can't seem to ever get matches. Then again I've heard it's related to how much you're on the app and the more you try to force it the algorithm ignores you, and only trying to use it in times of desperation maybe I try to swipe too much.
I also always struggled with filling out profile info.
Yeah, she seemed confused to say the least.
Man, Tinder, Bumble, whatever, are all lame. They're designed to make money, possibly finding a match is only a secondary consideration for the app developers. Tinder def wants you to buy a billion blue stars or boost or whatever.
However, I also think it is about knowing our market and who might be into us. I wrote my profile to appeal to the women who I'm into and who I have the most luck with in normal life.
Super artsy, super academic, super far left ladies might give me a chance so I write I enjoy shit that will appeal to all three groups. However, nurses, receptionists, most k-12 teachers, and conservative women will never swipe on me, so I don't even bother trying to appeal to them.
Also, music is a big connector for me. If they listen to obscure music I might have a chance, but if they listen to pop, rap, or country I'm dead in the water.
Does anyone else have hints that a woman might swipe on them? Or that there is no way a woman is going to give them a shot?