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Does anyone have any advice on how to get my energy back? After being in a toxic relationship I feel like a part of my soul or part of me is gone, I used to be real friendly and happy a lot. I used to really care for others but after I broke up with my skanky ex I just feel so drained and weak. I don't miss him at all, I don't love him but rather want that chunk of who I was back. I feel like a shadow of my former self. I feel it on and off the board. I want to get back out there and be myself and socialize and mabe get back into dating. But I just feel this part of myself missing, maybe I need to heal, can someone help me figure this out.
you know how they say 'weather isn't the same as climate'? you're just having bad weather but your whole person is intact. do the things you love, build good times even if you have to force it at first. feeling lousy after relationships is normal but it's not permanent.
Take care of yourself too. If you drink/smoke/do drugs, try and cut back on that stuff. You don't necessarily have to flat out quit, but try limiting it to only a small amount a week. Same for eating healthy. Try to cut back on junk and processed crap. Reynolds eats fruit.
Get outside at least 15 minutes a day and move around. Even if it's just going for a walk around the block. The fresh air is good for you. If you want to skate but don't feel like doing tricks, maybe just go for a skate around the block and pop ollies over cracks and shit. Not every time on the board has to be a battle.
Limit your time online and in front of a screen. You said you got a record player, go digging for some new records, or do something easy while you listen to the ones you have. Draw, work on a puzzle, build something, whatever you like doing. It's a good way to relax and take your mind off of things. Hit up the library and find a book you want to read. Learn an instrument. Basically find something you like doing that takes you away from phones and computers and the tv and make time for it.
Try to get a good night sleep. My wife and I used to stay up and watch TV at night but we couldnt do that after my daughter was born about 6 months ago because we didn't want the sound to wake her up, so now we read books at night. I usually read about 30 minutes and by then I'm dead tired and fall asleep no problem. It's a good way to relax your brain and wind down. Easily the best new habit I've picked up.
Try to work on some of that stuff and see if you notice a difference in a week. I'm not bouncing off the walls with energy, but I feel like I'm happier and more willing to do things I'd normally be too lazy to do when I'm not taking care of myself.
Unfortunately I don't have much advice for meeting new friends. Since high school, the only person I've met and had a strong lasting friendship with is my wife. The people I hang out with are people I've know for +15 years or family.